During the courtship phase I like a guy who:
2%
Seems aloof and plays hard to get
- Johanna Beyenbach, 29, from New York, NY
"The chase does it for me."
73%
Plays it cool, but is clear about his interest
- Vida James, 28, from New York, NY
"Quit playing games with my heart" - Kate DAlleva, 25, from Morristown, NJ
"Flirting is fun, enjoy this part." - Rosie Dehoyos, 29, from Dallas, TX
"Communication is the best asset in any type of relationship." - Ashley Hayes, 24, from Los Angeles, CA
"Don't come on too strong, but let her know your interested" - Elinor N, 23, from New York, NY
"I love the flirty game, not the ìhard to getî game ... I want it to feel like a forbidden affair." - Monique Lewis, 31, from New York, NY
"Don't be too much but not so little that I can't tell how you feel" - Jenna E, 32, from Davenport, IA
"Game players need not apply." - Emily Woolf, 26, from Brooklyn, NY
"Don't scare me off with too much, don't push me away with too little." - Grace Kang, 29, from Los Angeles, CA
"Just don't play games. If you want it, let a girl know." - Erika Thomas, 25, from Miami, FL
"I often jump in headfirst so it's balanced when he has his head above water" - Aja Bernard, 27, from Brooklyn, NY
"it's very annoying if a guy is all over me. Obviously he likes you if he's spending time!" - Heather Callan, 25, from Chicago, IL
"Too heavy too early is a total turn off, but if I don't think you like me then I'm sticking around." - Sara Bour, 23, from Urbana, IL
"Still make me work for it, but give me something to aim for." - Nadia Reiman, 28, from Brooklyn, NY
"Balance balance balance. Don't be a doormat, show me that you have your own life." - Rebecca Nashleanas, 25, from Los Angeles, CA
"A medium between playing hard to get and being overly attentive." - Amy Liu, 23, from San Diego, CA
"A little bit of both is nice." - Wendy Farley, 44, from Charleston, SC
"Playing it cool doesn't hurt!" - Greta Eagan, 30, from New York, NY
"I like the play it cool at first, but after a while it needs to shift into the openly declared" - Jennifer Manghisi, 27, from New York, NY
"Obsessive is too easy, and hard to get gets old quick" - Kira Wilkinson, 27, from Washington, DC
"Females like a little ìchaseî too" - Justine Bour, 26, from Chicago, IL
"If you come off too strong in the beginning, then I'm going to get turned off." - Ashley Woolley, 25, from Chicago, IL
"It's intriguing to be pursued, but we want to know you care." - Francesca Lacuesta, 29, from Sacramento, CA
"Too much too soon or too many games and I'll be runnin' for the hills." - Renee Lucas, 30, from New York, NY
"Don't be too eager." - Krissy P, 25, from NJ
"I like a guy who shows his interest in me, just nothing to over the top." - Jessi Odenbach, 28, from Chicago, IL
"We have to know that you are interested." - Kristin Castro, 24, from San Francisco, CA
"You always have to play it cool." - Allison Baxley, 29, from New York, NY
"Wishy washy is the worst." - Anne C, 24, from Miami, FL
"It's nice to know that he cares and is definitely interested without being too needy." - Carly Twisselman, 25, from Los Angeles, CA
"Moving too fast can scare a girl, but I do want to know if you are interested" - Miranda Elling, 32, from Chicago, IL
"No reason to settle until you find someone worth it." - Lauren McHenry, 26, from Dallas, TX
"Its not to much or to little....its just right" - Ashley Potter, 26, from Milwaukee, WI
"Too mushy is overwhelming." - Grace Hsieh, 22, from San Diego, CA
"Clarity of interest is reassuring, but playing it cool is a good way of showing composure." - Ashley Becker, 26, from New York, NY and Miami, FL
"Too much too soon is too much reason to run away!" - Vanessa Jeong, 28, from San Leandro, CA
"Just be true to yourself." - Shelby Kovant, 25, from New York, NY
"I like it when a guy initially plays it cool without leading me on." - Paula L, 28, from Miami, Florida
"Don't want it to be too over the top" - Alicia Cohen, 37, from New York, NY
"Let's play it cool for now." - Emily Pelton, 29, from Brooklyn, NY
"Until you're super serious you don't want to come off too in love" - Jennifer Beio, 26, from Chicago, IL
"It's fun to keep me guessing, but I like to know we're on the right track." - Sandy Tragos, 32, from Chicago, IL
"I hate games, but I also like surprises" - Maya Calaway, 24, from Boston, MA
"There needs to be some element of mystery there but also signs that tell you he's into you" - Priscilla Torres, 26, from New York, NY
"It's the age old phrase ìwe like a challangeî but not one that would keep me up at night guessing,"
25%
Is passionate and open about his love for me
- Mercedes Tahir, 23, from New York, NY
"Let it all out" - Rachel U, 26, from New York, NY
"If he makes it clear he wants to be with you, the game playing gets thrown out the window" - Whitney R, 25, from Princeton, NJ
"I love accolades. It shows me he is really into me." - Deeana Lowe-Chin, 24, from Miami, FL
"Passion is pleasure..and pleasure is ALWAYS good!" - Amy S., 25, from Chicago, IL
"Don't overdo it and take care to be a little cautious, but express how you feel." - Kate Cohen, 27, from Syosset, NY
"i want to know where i stand." - Julienne Irons, 27, from Los Angeles, CA
"I hate games. Be real with me and I'll be real with you. Life is short. Let's live it." - Becca Schepps, 29, from Brooklyn, NY
"As long as its mutual, it isn't annoying." - Mekalia Reid, 27, from New York, NY
"Life is hard enough, I don't need to add ìman chaserî to my resume. Next!" - Sarah Conrad, 27, from New York, NY
"Girls love guys who wear their hearts on their sleeves!" - Cheng-Cheng Lok, 24, from San Francisco, CA
"Let's not play games, be real and I'll do the same" - Nancy Spruiell, 43, from New York, NY
"Must feel warmth from a guy. Cool and aloof just don't get my interest." - Katrina Robinson, 28, from Charleston, SC
"I don't dig games." - Dominique Vance, 23, from New York, NY
"You don't have to go crazy, but just be yourself & honest. Cold & aloof = lack of interest from me." - Erika San Miguel, 32, from Larkspur, CA
"I want someone who is expressive. Means what he says and says what he means, no games"