Does she want pleasantry, or honesty?
1%
Pleasantry
- Deborah Lau, 23, from La Jolla, CA
"Honesty can sometimes hurt the other person so to play it safe, don't say anything mean."
31%
Honesty
- Heather Callan, 25, from Chicago, IL
"My last boyfriend was BLUNT! I really grew to like and respect it." - JoAnna Di Tullio, 24, from Boston, MA
"PLEASE BE HONEST. HOLD THE SUGAR." - Ashley Hayes, 24, from Los Angeles, CA
"Honesty is key to any relationship." - Pienby Laurence, 25, from Jersey City, NJ
"Honesty is an absolute must, all the time." - Jennifer Beio, 26, from Chicago, IL
"Don't lead me on! Tell me like it is." - Becca Schepps, 29, from Brooklyn, NY
"Also.. what you don't know doesn't hurt. so use discretion." - Miranda Elling, 32, from Chicago, IL
"Please." - Luana Suciu, 25, from Boston, MA
"Otherwise pleasantry is ruined anyways." - Genevieve Melzer, 27, from San Francisco, CA
"Don't beat around the bush, be honest." - Nadia Reiman, 28, from Brooklyn, NY
"If by 'she' you mean me, I ALWAYS want honesty." - Sherika Mair, 29, from West Palm Beach, FL
"I perfer the truth." - Sara Jagodzinski, 24, from Carol Stream, IL
"You need to be honest. Not harsh, but honest. She deserves that." - Shannon Harknett, 24, from New Orleans, LA
"Just don't be rude about it please." - Kristin Castro, 24, from San Francisco, CA
"Yes!" - Angela Lee, 23, from Cerritos, CA
"Honesty is always the best policy." - Kylan Conroy, 24, from Chicago, IL
"In my eyes, all relationships are based on trust." - Kate Sample, 31, from Chicago, IL
"Women have killer instincts. Trust me, we already know." - Justine Bour, 26, from Chicago, IL
"I always want to hear the truth no matter what." - Mercedes Tahir, 23, from New York, NY
"With a splash of pleasantry." - Lucy Malcolm, 26, from New York, NY
"Unless I'm asking if I look fat." - Anna Bykova, 23, from San Francisco, CA
"Truth is the strongest force in the world." - Wendy Farley, 44, from Charleston, SC
"Be honest with me, but do it in a respectful and constructive way." - Ann Dang, 24, from San Diego, CA
"Don't lie. It's unnecessary." - Jessica Angst, 23, from Palm Beach, FL
"Honesty is the best policy. It will form a better bond that will lead to pleasantry!" - Vicky Kuo, 24, from San Diego, CA
"In a nice way though." - Samantha Conniff, 24, from Brooklyn, NY
"Honest but tactful." - Lisa Miao, 27, from New York, NY
"Except if you cheated and aren't planning on stopping." - Alison Dichter, 31, from New York, NY
"It's important to be honest, but ever more so to be tactful." - Jennifer Manghisi, 27, from New York, NY
"Tell me the truth." - Grace Hsieh, 22, from San Diego, CA
"Tell me so I can fix it." - Kimone Campbell, 27, from Palm Beach, FL
"Why lie?" - Kate Bailey, 26, from Chicago, IL
"Honesty first and foremost." - Frankie Robinson, 36, from Chicago, IL
"Actually, both would be nice!"
68%
Can you not be pleasant and honest?
- Julienne Irons, 27, from Los Angeles, CA
"There is a pleasant way to say all things if you care enough to think before you speak." - Miana DeGardeyn, 33, from Chicago, IL
"These two really should go together most of the time." - Jessi Odenbach, 28, from Chicago, IL
"Be honest but gentle." - Lauren McHenry, 26, from Dallas, TX
"They can coexist." - Claire Watkins, 25, from Santa Cruz, CA
"It's called sugar coating - learn it." - Emily Pelton, 29, from Brooklyn, NY
"You've got to find a mix. Be honest but not mean." - Rebecca Nashleanas, 25, from Los Angeles, CA
"Honesty is very important, but it can be said in a pleasant way." - Rosie Dehoyos, 29, from Dallas, TX
"The truth shall set you free." - Emily Woolf, 26, from Brooklyn, NY
"I know it might be tough, but I believe in you." - Sara Bour, 23, from Urbana, IL
"A nice mix of the two is perfect." - Tiffany Clarke, 25, from richmond, ca
"I know it's hard for men to do two things at once, but this should at least be attempted." - Paula L, 28, from Miami, Florida
"I want both." - Gina Kim, 24, from San Diego, CA
"I'd say honesty is more important." - Maya Calaway, 24, from Boston, MA
"If I put in the effort to be honest and pleasant I expect it back." - Alicia Cohen, 37, from New York, NY
"I think you can be both OR at least I hope you can." - Dominique Jackson, 29, from Los Angeles, CA
"Don't be dumb and don't lie. Use your brain." - Whitney R, 25, from Princeton, NJ
"Do I have to choose? :D" - Molly Millett, 23, from San Francisco, CA
"You can say the truth in a nice way." - Jessica G, 25, from Boca Raton, FL
"Please?" - Deeana Lowe-Chin, 24, from Miami, FL
"Is it seriously not possible to be both?" - Laura Lefkowitz, 35, from New York, NY
"If I didn't want to know, I wouldn't ask the question. Just don't be TOO brutal." - Marisa Zupan, 27, from Brooklyn, NY
"That, my friend, is the sign of a well mannered, articulate man and that's a-ok with me." - Marianna Branda, 23, from Miami, FL
"Honesty is always a must. It's just how you say it." - Kate DAlleva, 25, from Morristown, NJ
"Sugar coat. Unless I ask otherwise." - Kira Wilkinson, 27, from Washington, DC
"Be honest, but have a little tact. Remember: It's not what you say, it's how you say it." - Cheng-Cheng Lok, 24, from San Francisco, CA
"We want both." - Stephanie Singer, 30, from New York, NY
"It depends on the situation." - Katrina Robinson, 28, from Charleston, SC
"And if I absolutely have to choose between the two, I choose honesty." - Jackie Rivera, 25, from Miami, FL
"It's all in the phrasing. Choose your words wisely." - Veronica Cheung, 24, from San Diego, CA
"Just try not to be a total jerk." - Ashley Woolley, 25, from Chicago, IL
"Aim for a good balance." - Cat Davis, 25, from New York, NY
"Be completely honest when making big decisions... otherwise just make me feel good about myself." - Susie Jones, 29, from Naples, Fl
"A combination is a must." - Jessica Barrutia, 24, from Chicago, IL
"There is always a way to say things in an appropriate way." - Jen Gsell, 29, from Reston, VA
"Manners and honesty are huge factors with girls. Be honest, but don't be rude." - Jessica Chang, 30, from Los Angeles, CA
"Men need to learn this one. Pleasant and honest. It's possible." - Dominique Vance, 23, from New York, NY
"You can sugarcoat a little if you think I might be very sensitive about it." - Amy S., 25, from Chicago, IL
"Though, if it's not possible, always HONESTY." - Priya Massand, 30, from Flushing, NY
"Find a nice way to say the truth!" - Karoline D'Angola, 24, from Bernardsville, NJ
"Be honest, but don't be harsh about it." - Sara Koch, 30, from Youngstown, OH
"Be both, please." - Tiffany Davis, 32, from San Diego, CA
"Both." - Amber Sellers, 33, from Brooklyn, NY
"I can handle just about any news as long as it's in earnest." - Ashley Potter, 26, from Milwaukee, WI
"C'mon, if the only honest things you have to say are mean, why are you talking to me?" - Erika Thomas, 25, from Miami, FL
"Consider feelings when divulging the total truth." - Sandy Tragos, 32, from Chicago, IL
"It's not difficult to do both, really." - Rachel U, 26, from New York, NY
"Put a positive spin on anything honest that might not be what she wants to hear." - Elinor N, 23, from New York, NY
"If she bought a blue dress already, don't tell her it's not her color." - Jacquelyn Tillotson, 31, from Miami Beach, FL
"Its all about the approach." - Corey G, 25, from Chicago, IL
"There shouldn't be a whole lot that's unpleasant while you're being honest." - Danielle L, 26, from Chicago, IL
"Be tactful and respectful. Be honest but find a way to express that doesn't kill the mood." - Britt Ancell, 26, from New York, NY
"I'm looking for that balance. Learn to spin everything nicely." - Erika San Miguel, 32, from Larkspur, CA
"I like well balanced people." - Regina Melzer, 32, from Los Angeles, CA
"The best of both worlds please!" - Johanna Beyenbach, 29, from New York, NY
"You can be playful with your honesty." - Nancy Spruiell, 43, from New York, NY
"Seriously!" - Senait Mengstab, 30, from San Francisco, CA
"Find a nice way to say what you want to say. I know you can do it!" - Nora Lahl, 31, from Milwaukee, WI
"The two are not mutually exclusive. It's called being kind." - Vicky Chivy, 26, from San Diego, CA
"nope" - Vicky K, 25, from Chino Hills, CA
"both" - Wendy Liu, 23, from Alhambra, CA
"Both is nice, I wouldn't mind the honesty being somewhat embellished." - Elise Stiller, 36, from Seaford, NY
"Let's face it dude! You're screwed!" - Doris Parker, 27, from Springfield, MA
"Both are important. Point blank." - Jill Hanner, 34, from Astoria, NY
"yeah, be both!" - Ashley Becker, 26, from New York, NY and Miami, FL
"If you are not honest, she won't trust you. If you are brutally honest, she will leave you!" - Sarah Conrad, 27, from New York, NY
"Multifaceted!" - Renee Lucas, 30, from New York, NY
"Try a bit of both, please." - Anne C, 24, from Miami, FL
"It's all about HOW you say it. It's very important to choose your angle wisely when being honest." - Vanessa Jeong, 28, from San Leandro, CA
"It's a worthy challenge." - Grace Kang, 29, from Los Angeles, CA
"Tactful honesty is best." - Kate Cohen, 27, from Syosset, NY
"I like both." - Vida James, 28, from New York, NY
"There is a way of putting things honestly that is constructive."