Is it possible for me to ask out a bartender, barista, or waitress?
6%
If you're game for public humiliation.
- Erika San Miguel, 32, from Larkspur, CA
"Do not harass them in their place of work. You can mistake politeness with chemistry." - Wendy Liu, 23, from Alhambra, CA
"It's cheesy. If you were seriously interested in her, waiting until she's off work wouldn't hurt." - Kimone Campbell, 27, from Palm Beach, FL
"Why do that?" - Cat Davis, 25, from New York, NY
"Oy. I used to serve tables, and it always made me super uncomfortable to be hit on at work." - Amber Sellers, 33, from Brooklyn, NY
"Go for it, but do it discreetly, don't be douchey." - Molly Millett, 23, from San Francisco, CA
"That is just rude to me!"
26%
It is possible, but not recommended.
- Danielle L, 26, from Chicago, IL
"It's not very classy to hit on a lady while she's getting paid to serve you." - Dominique Jackson, 29, from Los Angeles, CA
"Tacky. Are you desperate?" - Jennifer Beio, 26, from Chicago, IL
"Do what you like, but I guess I am interested in a person with a career." - Marisa Zupan, 27, from Brooklyn, NY
"Chances are you're drunk and momentarily in love with the person making you drunker." - Ashley Hayes, 24, from Los Angeles, CA
"They get hit on all the time, I'd say it's just better to leave them alone." - Jill Hanner, 34, from Astoria, NY
"Only if there is some serious flirting going on." - Vicky Chivy, 26, from San Diego, CA
"Not too sure." - Vicky K, 25, from Chino Hills, CA
"They probably get asked out all the time." - Ashley Becker, 26, from New York, NY and Miami, FL
"If she's into you, she will be glad you did... but be aware, she probably gets asked out a lot." - Renee Lucas, 30, from New York, NY
"You usually just end up looking creepy." - Sherika Mair, 29, from West Palm Beach, FL
"Now is not the time if you are out eating." - Kate DAlleva, 25, from Morristown, NJ
"Tricky, very tricky." - Erika Thomas, 25, from Miami, FL
"But really, how often do you think they play that game?!" - Kate Cohen, 27, from Syosset, NY
"They get asked out a lot, what makes you so special?" - Britt Ancell, 26, from New York, NY
"Ugh. At work, not a great idea. Might as well go for the stripper, too." - Dominique Vance, 23, from New York, NY
"Everyone hits on them. You're probably just another in a long line of customers who cross the line." - Heather Callan, 25, from Chicago, IL
"Chances are they are just doing their job. Wait 'til they get off." - Susie Jones, 29, from Naples, Fl
"Why not? Go for it!" - Ashley Woolley, 25, from Chicago, IL
"Never think you're the first customer who's asked her out. And she's probably flirting for tips." - Jacquelyn Tillotson, 31, from Miami Beach, FL
"Remember, she meets men every day she works." - Mercedes Tahir, 23, from New York, NY
"Probably not going to work. She doesn't care. I know I don't." - Vicky Kuo, 24, from San Diego, CA
"Sure." - Claire Watkins, 25, from Santa Cruz, CA
"Cheezy." - Rebecca Nashleanas, 25, from Los Angeles, CA
"Most of the time they are only flirting with you to get you to buy more drinks and to tip them well." - Sara Koch, 30, from Youngstown, OH
"She's only being nice to you for the tip." - Corey G, 25, from Chicago, IL
"That just comes off as awkward, they're at work and you're clearly not." - Tiffany Davis, 32, from San Diego, CA
"Chances are you will not get anywhere." - Wendy Farley, 44, from Charleston, SC
"While we're on a date? OMG - NO!"
68%
If there's chemistry, why not?
- Samantha Conniff, 24, from Brooklyn, NY
"It can happen... just be wary." - Sarah Conrad, 27, from New York, NY
"I think it's a flattering compliment even if she does say no." - Julienne Irons, 27, from Los Angeles, CA
"Go for it! They need love too, you know." - Pienby Laurence, 25, from Jersey City, NJ
"The worst she could say is no. However, if she says no, don't be persistent and keep pushing it." - Grace Kang, 29, from Los Angeles, CA
"But she might just say yes for the tips." - Laura Lefkowitz, 35, from New York, NY
"Go for it. Life is short." - JoAnna Di Tullio, 24, from Boston, MA
"Why on earth not??" - Whitney R, 25, from Princeton, NJ
"People meet everywhere, why not here? No stalking." - Angela Lee, 23, from Cerritos, CA
"You never know what will happen until you try." - Marianna Branda, 23, from Miami, FL
"A million guys can try, but you might be the one she's interested in." - Shannon Harknett, 24, from New Orleans, LA
"Just don't be that guy." - Maya Calaway, 24, from Boston, MA
"If there are sparks why avoid them? If it's not mutual, what's the loss?" - Vida James, 28, from New York, NY
"Don't leave a cheesy note on a napkin." - Vanessa Jeong, 28, from San Leandro, CA
"Just try to catch her when she's not busy." - Cheng-Cheng Lok, 24, from San Francisco, CA
"Never restrict yourself!" - Emily Woolf, 26, from Brooklyn, NY
"Be subtle, this is a very public setting." - Kate Bailey, 26, from Chicago, IL
"The worst they can say is 'no'." - Justine Bour, 26, from Chicago, IL
"Why would a guy treat a bartender or waitress any differently when it comes to asking her out?" - Emily Pelton, 29, from Brooklyn, NY
"You may not want to do it while they're working... could get ugly." - Priya Massand, 30, from Flushing, NY
"Never judge a person by their profession, she could be a medical student-soon-to-be-doctor!" - Jennifer Manghisi, 27, from New York, NY
"I'll help, I know just what to say." - Miranda Elling, 32, from Chicago, IL
"Yes, but then don't bitch at her when you realize you have opposite schedules." - Jackie Rivera, 25, from Miami, FL
"But not while they're serving you... come back another day." - Jessica Chang, 30, from Los Angeles, CA
"That IF is a huge IF. in the service industry you get asked out all day long." - Anne C, 24, from Miami, FL
"Just be discreet and not so obvious." - Miana DeGardeyn, 33, from Chicago, IL
"You never know where you'll meet that special someone, just don't become a creepy customer." - Kira Wilkinson, 27, from Washington, DC
"But she may just be flirting for a tip, you're probably one of many that night." - Gina Kim, 24, from San Diego, CA
"These people are paid to be nice to you. Make sure you're picking up on the right signs!" - Kate Sample, 31, from Chicago, IL
"You never know where you'll find a great girl." - Elinor N, 23, from New York, NY
"I am a bartender and DO NOT KNOW who started this rumor!! OF COURSE YOU CAN ASK US OUT!!" - Karoline D'Angola, 24, from Bernardsville, NJ
"After all, they are humans too." - Kylan Conroy, 24, from Chicago, IL
"I know married couples that have met this way!" - Katrina Robinson, 28, from Charleston, SC
"You never know until you give it a shot." - Veronica Cheung, 24, from San Diego, CA
"Why not?" - Luana Suciu, 25, from Boston, MA
"You never know until you try!" - Jen Gsell, 29, from Reston, VA
"If there's 'something' there, go for it. If you're just doing it on a whim, prepare to be let down." - Amy S., 25, from Chicago, IL
"If she is attractive, you're not the first to do it, so be tactful and not generic about it." - Jessica Barrutia, 24, from Chicago, IL
"From experience, about 90% of the time we are flirting to increase our tip." - Rosie Dehoyos, 29, from Dallas, TX
"Sure, make her feel good about herself in her work gear." - Sandy Tragos, 32, from Chicago, IL
"You never know until you ask." - Lucy Malcolm, 26, from New York, NY
"Be classy about it." - Lisa Miao, 27, from New York, NY
"As long as you are not also out on a date with someone else. It's happened, and it's not pretty." - Lauren McHenry, 26, from Dallas, TX
"It's another fish in the sea." - Tiffany Clarke, 25, from richmond, ca
"Enough said." - Alison Dichter, 31, from New York, NY
"But be prepared—you're not the only one making the moves on her." - Paula L, 28, from Miami, Florida
"She's human." - Stephanie Singer, 30, from New York, NY
"Why not?" - Frankie Robinson, 36, from Chicago, IL
"Why not, they're people too!" - Sara Jagodzinski, 24, from Carol Stream, IL
"But honestly, how can you know if there is really chemistry or not?" - Ann Dang, 24, from San Diego, CA
"You never know what works and doesn't." - Anna Bykova, 23, from San Francisco, CA
"Why not, it`s funny" - Jessica Angst, 23, from Palm Beach, FL
"If you like your significant other in the bar scene, go for it!" - Rachel U, 26, from New York, NY
"Just remember you're probably not the only cute guy to try this move." - Regina Melzer, 32, from Los Angeles, CA
"You never know man!" - Deborah Lau, 23, from La Jolla, CA
"It's cute to be daring so if you two were eyeing each other all night, just do it. It wouldn't hurt." - Johanna Beyenbach, 29, from New York, NY
"I don't get why there would be a problem here..." - Nancy Spruiell, 43, from New York, NY
"no comment." - Becca Schepps, 29, from Brooklyn, NY
"Go for what you believe in." - Senait Mengstab, 30, from San Francisco, CA
"Grow a pair." - Nora Lahl, 31, from Milwaukee, WI
"Just make sure there's more chemistry than just thinking she's hot." - Nadia Reiman, 28, from Brooklyn, NY
"Sure! just keep it classy and be honest." - Doris Parker, 27, from Springfield, MA
"Why do they have a category of their own?" - Elise Stiller, 36, from Seaford, NY
"No harm, no foul!" - Genevieve Melzer, 27, from San Francisco, CA
"My sister is a host and single." - Ashley Potter, 26, from Milwaukee, WI
"I don't really know the rules here. I don't see why not. Just know that she gets it a lot." - Kristin Castro, 24, from San Francisco, CA
"They're human, aren't they?" - Kristin Castro, 24, from San Francisco, CA
"They're human, aren't they?" - Jessica G, 25, from Boca Raton, FL
"Just don't be fooled if she gives you a wrong number." - Deeana Lowe-Chin, 24, from Miami, FL
"But be sure first or you could be embarrassed." - Sara Bour, 23, from Urbana, IL
"I don't see why there would be any problem with it." - Alicia Cohen, 37, from New York, NY
"Go for it." - Jessi Odenbach, 28, from Chicago, IL
"It's happened to me." - Grace Hsieh, 22, from San Diego, CA
"Unexpected things may happen."