I just lost my job. How long do I have until my girlfriend starts to get antsy?
6%
Two weeks
- Sara Bour, 23, from Urbana, IL
"Get on that asap." - Vicky Chivy, 26, from San Diego, CA
"2 weeks" - Doris Parker, 27, from Springfield, MA
"Bills are do every month. Let's get productive. Quick. Fast." - Jessica G, 25, from Boca Raton, FL
"The whole hanging out thing and being available is great. BUT, please actively seek a position." - Ashley Potter, 26, from Milwaukee, WI
"Anyone can get SOMETHING in two weeks. If not, you're not trying hard enough. And slackers suck." - Dominique Jackson, 29, from Los Angeles, CA
"Get a job, any job, just make money."
9%
One month
- Kristin Castro, 24, from San Francisco, CA
"Bounce back! For you, not necessarily for her." - Deborah Lau, 23, from La Jolla, CA
"If you're persistent enough, a month should be enough time to find another job." - Sherika Mair, 29, from West Palm Beach, FL
"It all depends on the emergency cash. This is the emergency." - Corey G, 25, from Chicago, IL
"I understand it's hard, but you can do something on the side while looking for another job." - Nadia Reiman, 28, from Brooklyn, NY
"Longer if you're searching. But grace time for sitting on your ass and finding yourself? 31 days." - Cheng-Cheng Lok, 24, from San Francisco, CA
"He's gotta be proactive in looking for a new job." - Grace Hsieh, 22, from San Diego, CA
"Be independent, please." - Nancy Spruiell, 43, from New York, NY
"depends on the girl too" - Deeana Lowe-Chin, 24, from Miami, FL
"That's long enough for a quick break, and for you to get back into the work game" - Jessi Odenbach, 28, from Chicago, IL
"You can't start borrowing rent."
16%
Depends how much you have in savings
- Alicia Cohen, 37, from New York, NY
"Some people can afford an extended vacation, and that can be nice if you're taking me along!" - Samantha Conniff, 24, from Brooklyn, NY
"It definitely depends on savings and if you have a plan/motivation." - Ashley Hayes, 24, from Los Angeles, CA
"With the bad economy I'd say 3 months or less, especially if you don't have a lot in savings!" - Emily Pelton, 29, from Brooklyn, NY
"if you are financially comfortable, then there's no worries" - Emily Woolf, 26, from Brooklyn, NY
"Money issues put strain on a relationship, so let's try and avoid those." - Erika Thomas, 25, from Miami, FL
"Rent and day to day expenses begin to add up, but that's what savings are for, right?" - Jennifer Manghisi, 27, from New York, NY
"I just don't want any free loaders." - Kimone Campbell, 27, from Palm Beach, FL
"Who cares, as long as you have your own money?" - Priya Massand, 30, from Flushing, NY
"It's not the job, it's the means of living. If there's food on the table, we're good!" - Miranda Elling, 32, from Chicago, IL
"Hopefully you can take care of yourself." - Genevieve Melzer, 27, from San Francisco, CA
"Depends on what type of a girl she is." - Cat Davis, 25, from New York, NY
"I'll only get antsy if I start having to pay your rent." - Jessica Chang, 30, from Los Angeles, CA
"And depends on if you're doing something meaningful." - Jackie Rivera, 25, from Miami, FL
"Make a big step in SOME direction." - Kate Bailey, 26, from Chicago, IL
"It's really not my business, except to be supportive." - Danielle L, 26, from Chicago, IL
"If you have the situation under control, it shouldn't be too big a worry." - Justine Bour, 26, from Chicago, IL
"You'll likely have to find a job right away, but if you have a nice savings, let's take a vacation"
65%
Depends how hard you're trying to find a job
- Whitney R, 25, from Princeton, NJ
"This is an unfair time to judge the unemployed. Try your best." - Gina Kim, 24, from San Diego, CA
"I would be okay with however long if I know that you're trying." - Tiffany Clarke, 25, from richmond, ca
"Agree again!" - Sara Jagodzinski, 24, from Carol Stream, IL
"If you have to take a crappy job just to tide you over, then do it." - Rebecca Nashleanas, 25, from Los Angeles, CA
"Obviously she should be supportive, but if you aren't trying to get a job she's going to get antsy." - Paula L, 28, from Miami, Florida
"It depends on how important it is for you to have a job for her." - Stephanie Singer, 30, from New York, NY
"As long as you are really trying to get a new job." - Sara Koch, 30, from Youngstown, OH
"At some point, you're going to have to suck it up and start waiting tables." - Frankie Robinson, 36, from Chicago, IL
"In today's economic situation, sometimes you have to be a little more patient." - Vicky Kuo, 24, from San Diego, CA
"And it depends on how much you're saving, but it really depends." - Claire Watkins, 25, from Santa Cruz, CA
"I would have compassion as long as you're doing everything you can." - Lauren McHenry, 26, from Dallas, TX
"Revamp your resume and hit the pavement." - Lisa Miao, 27, from New York, NY
"There's nothing worse than apathy." - Molly Millett, 23, from San Francisco, CA
"In this economy, it's understandable. Just keep trying :)" - Marisa Zupan, 27, from Brooklyn, NY
"You have control over autonomy, assertiveness and responsibility. Job or not, those things are hot." - Shannon Harknett, 24, from New Orleans, LA
"Be sincerely proactive about the search, that is all that matters." - Angela Lee, 23, from Cerritos, CA
"Finding a job is hard, but if you are trying hard than I can be more understanding." - Marianna Branda, 23, from Miami, FL
"Don't get comfortable being broke." - Kate DAlleva, 25, from Morristown, NJ
"I just don't want to see my guy give up." - Ashley Becker, 26, from New York, NY and Miami, FL
"Depends on a lot, but if you are looking and being responsible, then she should be understanding." - Kira Wilkinson, 27, from Washington, DC
"If you are actively searching, I will be patient, times are rough" - Maya Calaway, 24, from Boston, MA
"As long as you're not sitting in front of the TV eating lucky charms and complaining all day." - Miana DeGardeyn, 33, from Chicago, IL
"As long as you're actively searching, a great girlfriend will be understanding and supportive." - Ann Dang, 24, from San Diego, CA
"It's all about effort - who knows, the economy may suck." - Tiffany Davis, 32, from San Diego, CA
"If you are trying your best, why would I look down on you?" - Katrina Robinson, 28, from Charleston, SC
"If you're mooching, I'm pissed. But if you're honestly trying, I understand. It's a tough economy." - Veronica Cheung, 24, from San Diego, CA
"The economy sucks. Just maintain your motivation." - Ashley Woolley, 25, from Chicago, IL
"And it depends on how much you have in savings." - Luana Suciu, 25, from Boston, MA
"Some things are out of our control." - Susie Jones, 29, from Naples, Fl
"I need to see some effort here, though." - Dominique Vance, 23, from New York, NY
"It's a terrible economy. But if you're awesome at what you do, you won't be jobless for long." - Jessica Barrutia, 24, from Chicago, IL
"Our economy is tough right now. As long as you are proactive about it, it's totally fine with me." - Jen Gsell, 29, from Reston, VA
"As long as you're really trying, then she'll understand and good things will come. It's just k" - Amy S., 25, from Chicago, IL
"Job market sucks right now. As long as you are doing everything you can to get a job, don't worry." - Britt Ancell, 26, from New York, NY
"Life isn't about a job; it's about being happy. Be a bum if that's what makes you tick." - Kylan Conroy, 24, from Chicago, IL
"I know times are hard, but do not make excuses!" - Karoline D'Angola, 24, from Bernardsville, NJ
"You can't just sit on your ass and expect to be hired." - Heather Callan, 25, from Chicago, IL
"Hopefully, you are with a cool, down to earth girl that behaves rationally." - Jessica Angst, 23, from Palm Beach, FL
"I would immediately be searching very hard for a new job. I would only expect the same from my him." - Wendy Farley, 44, from Charleston, SC
"Unemployment is ok IF you are motivated to get back to supporting yourself." - Anna Bykova, 23, from San Francisco, CA
"Your efforts are really important." - Lucy Malcolm, 26, from New York, NY
"I'm going to get antsy right away. But, I won't get frustrated if you're making a genuine effort." - Sandy Tragos, 32, from Chicago, IL
"If you're just sitting around playing on the internet, then forget it." - Mercedes Tahir, 23, from New York, NY
"If you're on facebook all day, i'll be 'antsy' after a day." - Kate Sample, 31, from Chicago, IL
"I'll be your cheerleader, but get back out there." - Elinor N, 23, from New York, NY
"It's a tough world out there right now... just don't be lazy." - Jacquelyn Tillotson, 31, from Miami Beach, FL
"Losing your job isn't a vacation." - Amber Sellers, 33, from Brooklyn, NY
"No loafing, ya mooch!" - JoAnna Di Tullio, 24, from Boston, MA
"It's a tough market, so if you're looking and not finding something, I can't be mad." - Laura Lefkowitz, 35, from New York, NY
"It's a bad economy. All I can ask is that you try your best. And don't ask to borrow all my saving" - Wendy Liu, 23, from Alhambra, CA
"He needs to be motivated to find another job, or at least trying." - Jill Hanner, 34, from Astoria, NY
"Try to remain positive!" - Vicky K, 25, from Chino Hills, CA
"Depends on a lot of things." - Nora Lahl, 31, from Milwaukee, WI
"Look for a job, go back to school, volunteer. Just don't be a lump!" - Becca Schepps, 29, from Brooklyn, NY
"Effort can keep me off your backóbut don't expect I won't be constantly trying to help." - Regina Melzer, 32, from Los Angeles, CA
"You're only human, these things happen." - Johanna Beyenbach, 29, from New York, NY
"I hate complacency. On anyone." - Senait Mengstab, 30, from San Francisco, CA
"IF you're sitting on your ass and dinner isn't ready when I get home we're got problems! LOL!" - Alison Dichter, 31, from New York, NY
"It really depends on proactivity. If you're not trying hard and being lazy, it's annoying." - Elise Stiller, 36, from Seaford, NY
"and how much you have in savings!" - Anne C, 24, from Miami, FL
"I mean, it all also depends on if I'm dependent on you financially." - Pienby Laurence, 25, from Jersey City, NJ
"If you are actively looking for work, I will not get antsy about your joblessness." - Julienne Irons, 27, from Los Angeles, CA
"Finding a job can be tough but as long as you are trying and working at it I'll stand by your side." - Sarah Conrad, 27, from New York, NY
"Thats what unemployment benefits are for. It happens." - Erika San Miguel, 32, from Larkspur, CA
"Shit happens." - Vida James, 28, from New York, NY
"I hope you're not sitting around in boxer-briefs playing warcraft instead of pounding pavement." - Jennifer Beio, 26, from Chicago, IL
"It's a rough market. Still, put some effort into it." - Grace Kang, 29, from Los Angeles, CA
"If you're being a lazy bum, then pretty much immediately." - Vanessa Jeong, 28, from San Leandro, CA
"Productivity is character building."
4%
3 months
- Rosie Dehoyos, 29, from Dallas, TX
"That's average time for one to get a new job." - Kate Cohen, 27, from Syosset, NY
"It's tough out there... it may take longer." - Renee Lucas, 30, from New York, NY
"It's a rough economy these days, but after three months, there should be some sort of job for you." - Rachel U, 26, from New York, NY
"Give him a buffer, be supportive and encouraging."