Bros before hoes. Your thoughts?
20%
Hoes is an offensive word; don’t use it
- Jill Hanner, 32, from Astoria, NY
"Sad.. just call us ladies- and make space for everyone in your life" - Ashley Becker, 24, from New York, NY and Miami, FL
"I am not a hoe! But my hoes would come first!" - Luana Suciu, 23, from Boston, MA
"If not necessary." - Monique Lewis, 29, from New York, NY
"Simply put." - Emily Pelton, 27, from Brooklyn, NY
"You stupid hoe!" - Elise Stiller, 34, from Seaford, NY
"Don’t get me started…" - Wendy Liu, 21, from Alhambra, CA
"Extremely offensive, if the guys uses the term, he should never ever get laid." - Sara Jagodzinski, 22, from Carol Stream, IL
"Yeah...enough said." - Sherika Mair, 27, from West Palm Beach, FL
"If she’s a ho you shouldn’t be with her in the first place." - Heather Callan, 23, from Chicago, IL
"Just be a good friend and boyfriend. If you can't figure it out, I can't help you." - Julienne Irons, 25, from Los Angeles, CA
"I mean come on, really? Are you in high school?" - Elizabeth Fenwick, 21, from Berkeley, CA
"Friendships come 1st when single, if it's a serious relationship, your lady comes first." - Alicia Cohen, 35, from New York, NY
"Enough said." - Jolene R, 22, from San Francisco, CA
"I don't know what the phrase means." - Shelly Kaplan, 26, from Chicago, IL
"Don't say that you sound like an idiot." - Deeana Lowe-Chin, 22, from Miami, FL
"Your friends should be important to you, but your lady should be just as important if it's serious." - Angela H, 0, from North, CA
"I'm not your hoe!" - Elinor N, 21, from New York, NY
"Friends before flings… yes." - Nancy Spruiell, 43, from New York, NY
"and it depends on depth of relationship, etc in order to answer that" - Vida James, 26, from New York, NY
"That word is for girls only." - Rosalind Sun, 21, from San Diego, CA
"I agree on the idea, but don’t like ‘hoes.’" - Ashley Hayes, 22, from Los Angeles, CA
"Anyone that calls themselves a bro, usually isn't my type anyway." - Kate Cohen, 25, from Syosset, NY
"Come on…" - Amy Liu, 21, from San Diego, CA
"I like the concept though." - Yisell Muxo, 35, from Miami, FL
". (period)" - Nora Lahl, 29, from Milwaukee, WI
"What are you, 12? All the people in your life deserve your respect." - Anna Bykova, 21, from San Francisco, CA
"Try to be polite."
19%
If a guy says/thinks this, he’s an idiot
- Greta Eagan, 27, from New York, NY
"Please- find the balance." - Marianna Branda, 21, from Miami, FL
"How immature!" - Rosie Dehoyos, 27, from Dallas, TX
"You shouldn't be dating if this is still your train of thought." - Rachel U, 24, from New York, NY
"Do you want to be alone?" - Susie Jones, 27, from Naples, Fl
"If you're saying this and mean it, then the girl means nothing to you. Dump her." - Sara Koch, 28, from Youngstown, OH
"Grow up." - Grace Kang, 27, from Los Angeles, CA
"Not if you ever want to have a girlfriend." - Stephanie Singer, 28, from New York, NY
"You got to have a balance." - Ashley Potter, 24, from Milwaukee, WI
"You're probably wearing cargos, a popped collar and are going to be single the rest of your life." - Lucy Malcolm, 24, from New York, NY
"Prioritize as you see fit. You shouldn't need some fratty phrase to help you figure out what to do." - Claire Griffin, 26, from Charleston, SC
"Depends on the girl." - Annie Chivatakarn, 29, from San Diego, CA
"Idiot." - Paula L, 26, from Miami, Florida
"That’s just rude." - Sarah Conrad, 25, from New York, NY
"I hope my boyfriend never says this to me, if he does I will break up with him." - Kate Bailey, 24, from Chicago, IL
"I wouldn't want to spend time with a guys who thought of me as a 'hoe'." - Jessica G, 23, from Boca Raton, FL
"Who can you go home to? I hope it is certainly not your 'bro.'" - Schuyler Pham, 22, from Brooklyn, NY
"But don't be whipped." - Sandy Tragos, 30, from Chicago, IL
"That is just bizarre." - Dominique Vance, 21, from New York, NY
"Friends come & go just as much as significant others. You truly love me? I come before anyone else." - Britt Ancell, 24, from New York, NY
"Frat boy logic. Although the comraderie is commendable." - Emily Woolf, 24, from Brooklyn, NY
"Grow up, you're not in high school anymore." - Kristin Castro, 22, from San Francisco, CA
"Lame." - Miana DeGardeyn, 31, from Chicago, IL
"The saying itself is ridiculous." - Jennifer Manghisi, 25, from New York, NY
"I know this type and I stay the furthest away from them that I possibly can." - Renee Lucas, 28, from New York, NY
"You shouldn't have to choose. If you are choosing this, then don't even have a girlfriend."
51%
There’s a time and a place
- Amber Sellers, 31, from Brooklyn, NY
"girlfriends ≠ hoes" - Theresa G, 22, from San Francisco, CA
"Exactly what is stated... bros before HOES. And all men know, not everyone is a hoe..." - Francesca Lacuesta, 27, from Sacramento, CA
"Unless your bro is trying to band your hoe." - Miki Taka, 25, from Columbus, OH
"Depends on your priorities." - Jacquelyn Tillotson, 29, from Miami Beach, FL
"How about girlfrends before assholes?!" - Kate DAlleva, 23, from Morristown, NJ
"Be careful, she might be a better friend/bro to you than your buds." - Molly Millett, 21, from San Francisco, CA
"Depends on the situation." - Johanna Beyenbach, 27, from New York, NY
"It's all relative. Use your judgement." - Shelby Kovant, 23, from New York, NY
"I used this phrase before I saw this question!" - Jennifer Beio, 24, from Chicago, IL
"Meh. Depends on the hoes." - Jessica Angst, 21, from Palm Beach, FL
"n/a" - Cat Davis, 23, from New York, NY
"Bros aren't always right..." - Karoline D'Angola, 22, from Bernardsville, NJ
"Not if it's his wife." - Lauren McHenry, 24, from Dallas, TX
"Very few occasions for this." - Danielle L, 24, from Chicago, IL
"Equally respect your friends and your girl. Never make a girl feel unwanted/disrespected." - Kelly Kaems, 28, from Kew Gardens, NY
"All depends on the context." - Frankie Robinson, 34, from Chicago, IL
"Friendship will last a life time but whose to say she/he will?" - Jenna E, 30, from Davenport, IA
"This totally depends on the status of your relationship with your selected 'hoe.'" - Mekalia Reid, 25, from New York, NY
"I believe in Chicks before Dicks. So i respect the sentiment!" - Genevieve Melzer, 25, from San Francisco, CA
"Don't ditch your friends every time you go out with them...you will be 'that guy.'" - Kylan Conroy, 22, from Chicago, IL
"This saying is silly, but loyalty to friends is important as well!" - Jessica Barrutia, 22, from Chicago, IL
"Chicks before dicks...all silliness polarizing the sexes." - Kara Knisley, 23, from Chicago, IL
"Depends." - Tiffany Clarke, 23, from richmond, ca
"I like my space but I don't know about the hoe part..." - Aja Bernard, 25, from Brooklyn, NY
"Friends always come before relationships." - Tyler Haney, 21, from New York, NY
"Don't tell us, at least." - Erika Thomas, 23, from Miami, FL
"This applies to not asking out/hooking up with said bro's ex." - Shelby Kovant, 23, from New York, NY
"I used this phrase before I saw this question!" - Anne C, 22, from Miami, FL
"This depends completely on your definition." - Dominique Jackson, 27, from Los Angeles, CA
"Some girls are trouble and need to be kicked to the curb." - Katrina Robinson, 26, from Charleston, SC
"Depends on the situation." - Rachel U, 24, from New York, NY
"Think about your priorities long and hard, then make decisions that follow them." - Christine Behrens, 22, from Oakland, CA
"Don't let your hoes hear that." - Jen Gsell, 27, from Reston, VA
"Totally depends on the situation to which you're putting your bros before hoes." - Laura Lefkowitz, 33, from New York, NY
"Good message, poor wording." - Christina Johnson, 29, from New York, NY
"Sometimes bros first, sometimes hoes first." - Sara Bour, 21, from Urbana, IL
"Always stay close with your friends but there are time where this just shouldn’t apply." - Alison Dichter, 29, from New York, NY
"Ha... see my answer to 92! Friends comes before girls!" - Alexis Popov, 21, from New York, NY
"Chicks before dicks." - Kimone Campbell, 25, from Palm Beach, FL
"Yes" - Lisa Miao, 25, from New York, NY
"Loyalty is important and if your 'bros' are your best friends then they would definitely come first." - Becca Schepps, 27, from Brooklyn, NY
"Friends deserve more love than they get." - Krissy P, 23, from NJ
"Don’t call your girlfriend a hoe. But, you just want to hang with the guys sometimes. That’s cool." - Nadia Reiman, 26, from Brooklyn, NY
"If that ho is your baby’s mamma, (or future baby’s mamma) you need to negotiate a bro-ho detente." - Claire Watkins, 23, from Santa Cruz, CA
"I'd get sick of you if I saw you all the time, so go have your fun!" - Vicky Chivy, 24, from San Diego, CA
"word" - Vicky K, 23, from Chino Hills, CA
"You should know" - Erika San Miguel, 30, from Larkspur, CA
"Always a time and place...always." - Deborah Lau, 21, from La Jolla, CA
"Depends how great the girl is." - Maya Calaway, 22, from Boston, MA
"Really all depends on the bros and hoes we're referring to." - Rebecca Nashleanas, 23, from Los Angeles, CA
"It depends on the circumstances." - Amy Swibel, 23, from Chicago, IL
"Chicks before dicks. JK. I value friendship and want to see a guy who does, too." - Carly Twisselman, 23, from Los Angeles, CA
"This is only for a guys' conversation, I don't want to hear it." - Doris Parker, 25, from Springfield, MA
"This pertains to both sexes, sometimes friends are more important that your significant other." - Kelly Magsayo, 21, from La Jolla, CA
"...and sisters before misters." - Kira Wilkinson, 25, from Washington, DC
"It’s important to balance the two." - Pienby Laurence, 23, from Jersey City, NJ
"Depends on the bro and the ho." - Shannon Harknett, 22, from New Orleans, LA
"Don't give up one life for the other." - Vanessa Jeong, 26, from San Leandro, CA
"Life can get messy." - Brittany Caudle, 23, from New York, NY
"Time management." - Kate Sample, 29, from Chicago, IL
"My friends and I say, 'Chicks before dicks.' There's nothing wrong with putting your friends first." - Jackie Rivera, 23, from Miami, FL
"This goes along the lines of knowing when to shut your mouth." - Priya Massand, 28, from Flushing, NY
"And Sisters before misters! Loyalty to your crew is key!" - Gina Kim, 22, from San Diego, CA
"I don’t like guys who neglect their friends for their gf’s, but don’t do the opposite either." - Ashley Woolley, 23, from Chicago, IL
"At guys' night. But don't keep her on the back burner for long, or you'll be the one getting burned." - Veronica Cheung, 22, from San Diego, CA
"There’s a balance to be kept but it should often tip over on the girlfriend’s side." - Vicky Kuo, 22, from San Diego, CA
"Only when you’re fighting over them. or when you’re whipped" - Caroline Shadood, 22, from Basking Ridge, NJ
"Appreciate the sentiment, hate the lingo."
10%
Silliness
- Samantha Conniff, 22, from Brooklyn, NY
"It is ok...only in jest." - Mercedes Tahir, 21, from New York, NY
"Haha. i love the word hoes." - Justine Bour, 24, from Chicago, IL
"OK in high school... but a healthy mature relationship shouldn't face this predicament." - JoAnna Di Tullio, 22, from Boston, MA
"I'm a fan of keeping your friends close even if you're dating someone." - Marisa Zupan, 25, from Brooklyn, NY
"I get it but it depends on the situation." - Whitney Rife, 23, from Princeton, NJ
"...unless you consider me a bro, too." - Jessi Odenbach, 26, from Chicago, IL
"There is dude night and there is GF night." - Regina Melzer, 29, from Los Angeles, CA
"I’m rolling my eyes…" - Grace Hsieh, 20, from San Diego, CA
"If you literally mean hoes." - Nicole Laws, 28, from Fort Lauderdale, FL
"That's just the testosterone talking..." - Allison Baxley, 27, from New York, NY
"Guys need their guy friends the same way girls need their girlfriends." - Ann Dang, 22, from San Diego, CA
"Bros should equal hoes" - Tiffany Davis, 30, from San Diego, CA
"This one is tricky." - Senait Mengstab, 28, from San Francisco, CA
"Immature."