How long should you date before asking her on a weekend away?
8%
After the 'L' word.
- Kate Bailey, 26, from Chicago, IL
"If you're not invested, then it should be fun, and not a big deal." - Grace Hsieh, 22, from San Diego, CA
"It doesn't work so well if you hadn't." - Ashley Hayes, 24, from Los Angeles, CA
"So romantic." - Rebecca Nashleanas, 25, from Los Angeles, CA
"If you want it to be a special weekend wait until after the 'L' word." - Mercedes Tahir, 23, from New York, NY
"No weekend nookie without the L word." - Angela Lee, 23, from Cerritos, CA
"This is a big step." - Claire Watkins, 25, from Santa Cruz, CA
"A big step like that is going to take a big word ... it starts with an 'L'." - Karoline D'Angola, 24, from Bernardsville, NJ
"Gotta be serious enough to love the person." - Vicky Chivy, 26, from San Diego, CA
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66%
Doesn’t matter
- Amber Sellers, 33, from Brooklyn, NY
"Sounds like fun! But not a first date." - Danielle L, 26, from Chicago, IL
"Impulsiveness can be fun. It's about the passion!" - Emily Woolf, 26, from Brooklyn, NY
"If something comes up, go for it." - Jennifer Beio, 26, from Chicago, IL
"Depends on how things are going!" - Jessi Odenbach, 28, from Chicago, IL
"You know when it feels right." - Priya Massand, 30, from Flushing, NY
"Whenever it feels right and the opportunity presents itself." - Marianna Branda, 23, from Miami, FL
"It depends how the dates have been going." - Dominique Jackson, 29, from Los Angeles, CA
"Sweep me off my feet." - Rachel U, 26, from New York, NY
"Depends on the opportunities that present themselves - you can't turn down a free weekend away, etc." - Samantha Conniff, 24, from Brooklyn, NY
"It depends. You should definitely be serious and know that she's into you too." - Erika Thomas, 25, from Miami, FL
"When the urge strikes, just go with it." - Whitney R, 25, from Princeton, NJ
"Play it by ear." - Stephanie Singer, 30, from New York, NY
"It's nice to be surprised." - Erika San Miguel, 32, from Larkspur, CA
"Spontaneity is nice." - Katrina Robinson, 28, from Charleston, SC
"Depends on the chemistry." - Laura Lefkowitz, 35, from New York, NY
"Rules were made to be broken. Ask whenever it feels right." - Jessica Angst, 23, from Palm Beach, FL
"It does not matter... you are still spending time together." - Alison Dichter, 31, from New York, NY
"Depends on how quickly things are moving from the start." - Sara Koch, 30, from Youngstown, OH
"It's all about timing, my friend." - Tiffany Davis, 32, from San Diego, CA
"If you are really into each other a weekend away is awesome." - Lisa Miao, 27, from New York, NY
"Every relationship is different...feel it out, but don't lead her on." - JoAnna Di Tullio, 24, from Boston, MA
"I really don't understand these time rules. Go with it." - Sandy Tragos, 32, from Chicago, IL
"It is so cool to be spontaneous." - Marisa Zupan, 27, from Brooklyn, NY
"Whenever it gets to that point do it - get aways are some of life's great treats." - Julienne Irons, 27, from Los Angeles, CA
"I guess do it when it feels right." - Jessica G, 25, from Boca Raton, FL
"If there is a connection, why wait? Go for it!" - Justine Bour, 26, from Chicago, IL
"I love going on little getaways, so any time would be fine with me." - Emily Pelton, 29, from Brooklyn, NY
"You can always ask!" - Renee Lucas, 30, from New York, NY
"It can be the first date if everyone is adventurous!" - Kate DAlleva, 25, from Morristown, NJ
"Sometimes you just know." - Dominique Vance, 23, from New York, NY
"If you're sleeping together, it's fine, or if you think you're both ready to take that step." - Jennifer Manghisi, 27, from New York, NY
"But it better not interfere with anything I already have planned." - Sara Jagodzinski, 24, from Carol Stream, IL
"When you feel comfortable enough to ask." - Doris Parker, 27, from Springfield, MA
"Let's have a weekend getaway as a date. Ooooh-Ahhhhh." - Maya Calaway, 24, from Boston, MA
"It's when you know you're both comfortable spending a lot of time together." - Gina Kim, 24, from San Diego, CA
"I would say a couple months is pretty standard, but I think it really depends on the relationship." - Vicky Kuo, 24, from San Diego, CA
"If it comes up, it comes up." - Cheng-Cheng Lok, 24, from San Francisco, CA
"Be spontaneous!" - Jen Gsell, 29, from Reston, VA
"There's really no rule for this. It depends on your chemistry and comfort with each other." - Veronica Cheung, 24, from San Diego, CA
"They're fun anytime." - Shannon Harknett, 24, from New Orleans, LA
"It depends on how it is going. Don't scare the person away though." - Grace Kang, 29, from Los Angeles, CA
"You can learn a lot about each other on these weekend trips." - Ann Dang, 24, from San Diego, CA
"When the time feels right - when you're comfortable enough with each other." - Jessica Barrutia, 24, from Chicago, IL
"Vacations are fun!" - Kylan Conroy, 24, from Chicago, IL
"Depends on the relationship." - Jill Hanner, 34, from Astoria, NY
"DO whatever feels right" - Vicky K, 25, from Chino Hills, CA
"When you feel appropriate." - Elise Stiller, 36, from Seaford, NY
"After you get close enough, you'll know when the time is right." - Nadia Reiman, 28, from Brooklyn, NY
"Case by case. When it's right, you know it." - Nora Lahl, 31, from Milwaukee, WI
"Tread lightly and don't be offended if she thinks it's too soon." - Senait Mengstab, 30, from San Francisco, CA
"spontaneity is always good" - Johanna Beyenbach, 29, from New York, NY
"Some things move faster than others. Whatever feels normal." - Becca Schepps, 29, from Brooklyn, NY
"Every relationship moves at different paces." - Kate Sample, 31, from Chicago, IL
"It all depends on how well things are progressing." - Lucy Malcolm, 26, from New York, NY
"If a guy I just met (who I like) sweeps me away to the beach for the weekend, I am so in." - Rosie Dehoyos, 29, from Dallas, TX
"As long as she is showing interest back then it's all game." - Kristin Castro, 24, from San Francisco, CA
"If you feel it..." - Frankie Robinson, 36, from Chicago, IL
"I say emotion is everything! If that's what you feel, go for it!" - Pienby Laurence, 25, from Jersey City, NJ
"I don't really like to put limits on things like that. If you are both comfortable, why not?" - Ashley Potter, 26, from Milwaukee, WI
"As long as we're going somewhere fun and not purely romantic, why does it matter?" - Molly Millett, 23, from San Francisco, CA
"Whenever it feels right." - Luana Suciu, 25, from Boston, MA
"I'm up for adventure." - Heather Callan, 25, from Chicago, IL
"Depends on the couple and what kind of weekend away it is." - Tiffany Clarke, 25, from richmond, ca
"if its there, its there." - Corey G, 25, from Chicago, IL
"If you're getting along well, go for it whenever the opportunity presents itself." - Genevieve Melzer, 27, from San Francisco, CA
"Weekend vacations are always fun." - Jessica Chang, 30, from Los Angeles, CA
"Where are you taking me?" - Elinor N, 23, from New York, NY
"It could be fun at any point!" - Kira Wilkinson, 27, from Washington, DC
"Traveling is a great way to get to know each other better." - Jacquelyn Tillotson, 31, from Miami Beach, FL
"Do what feels right."
25%
Couple months
- Regina Melzer, 32, from Los Angeles, CA
"A little time to get use to not being single anymore please!" - Paula L, 28, from Miami, Florida
"Don't want to be uncomfortable." - Kimone Campbell, 27, from Palm Beach, FL
"Get to know each other." - Susie Jones, 29, from Naples, Fl
"This is a big step, so a few months is critical." - Ashley Woolley, 25, from Chicago, IL
"This is a great way to get to know each other better and break out of your normal dating routine." - Anna Bykova, 23, from San Francisco, CA
"It`s enough pretty much:)" - Sara Bour, 23, from Urbana, IL
"You need to be extremely comfortable with each other to start vacationing." - Cat Davis, 25, from New York, NY
"Too soon and you might look desperate." - Miranda Elling, 32, from Chicago, IL
"And do we split the cost at first? I never understand how that is supposed to go." - Anne C, 24, from Miami, FL
"Depends on the situation entirely and how comfortable we are together." - Vida James, 28, from New York, NY
"Taking a trip together is sort of make or break." - Jackie Rivera, 25, from Miami, FL
"Make sure she's worth spending the money on, and once you KNOW you'll have a good time." - Wendy Farley, 44, from Charleston, SC
"Going away together is one of those rights of passage in any relationship." - Kate Cohen, 27, from Syosset, NY
"It's too soon earlier." - Britt Ancell, 26, from New York, NY
"Can you stand her? Do you hang out a lot? Do it. Everybody needs a little time away." - Lauren McHenry, 26, from Dallas, TX
"You don't want potential awkwardness to settle early in." - Amy S., 25, from Chicago, IL
"Better question—where we going?" - Wendy Liu, 23, from Alhambra, CA
"Maybe the L word would happen on the weekend away. The weekend together shouldn't be far from town." - Sherika Mair, 29, from West Palm Beach, FL
"You can't go away with a stranger." - Sarah Conrad, 27, from New York, NY
"I think trips are great ways to really get to know how someone ticks!" - Deborah Lau, 23, from La Jolla, CA
"Traveling is always exciting but wait a couple of months so that you're comfortable with each other." - Vanessa Jeong, 28, from San Leandro, CA
"As long as you're comfortable with each other." - Deeana Lowe-Chin, 24, from Miami, FL
"Give yourself time to learn about her, but go with your gut. You'll know when it's a good time." - Miana DeGardeyn, 33, from Chicago, IL
"Unless you're spending all of your time together, a weekend away can be a little much at first." - Ashley Becker, 26, from New York, NY and Miami, FL
"Depends on how the relationship is moving; both parties should be hinting at it before it is asked." - Nancy Spruiell, 43, from New York, NY
"many variables" - Alicia Cohen, 37, from New York, NY
"When you're feeling comfortable together."