How should I ask for a first date?
67%
In person
- Whitney R, 25, from Princeton, NJ
"In person is always better for everything. Man up!" - Genevieve Melzer, 27, from San Francisco, CA
"It's so more personal...phone is my second choice." - Kate Bailey, 26, from Chicago, IL
"In person would give anyone a good indication of the other party's immediate response to the idea." - Kristin Castro, 24, from San Francisco, CA
"I would never go on a first date UNLESS I was asked in person." - Christine Behrens, 24, from Oakland, CA
"Phone is okay if you've already met and got her digits. Nothing that's non-verbal." - Justine Bour, 26, from Chicago, IL
"Then follow it up with a phone call." - Rebecca Nashleanas, 25, from Los Angeles, CA
"In person is the best way because it shows you are serious." - Jolene R, 24, from San Francisco, CA
"In person is ideal of course, but phone next." - Carly Twisselman, 25, from Los Angeles, CA
"In person is always the right way to do ANYTHING!" - Luana Suciu, 25, from Boston, MA
"There is nothing like face-to-face interaction." - Shannon Harknett, 24, from New Orleans, LA
"Phone is completely acceptable as well." - Amy S., 25, from Chicago, IL
"Have balls—ask me to my face!" - Jenna E, 32, from Davenport, IA
"In person would be ideal, but these days anything goes, I say!" - Anna Bykova, 23, from San Francisco, CA
"Text, phone and moreover facebook are too silly..." - Maya Calaway, 24, from Boston, MA
"Technology has made things much easier for us. Don't make her feel like you took the easier route." - Jennifer Beio, 26, from Chicago, IL
"In person is best, but I guess I don't really mind. Whichever way works." - Ashley Woolley, 25, from Chicago, IL
"Grow a set." - Claire Watkins, 25, from Santa Cruz, CA
"The other technological ways are cheap and gutless." - Rosie Dehoyos, 29, from Dallas, TX
"You can tell a lot by a person's facial reaction." - Ashley Hayes, 24, from Los Angeles, CA
"In person, no question about it." - Erika San Miguel, 32, from Larkspur, CA
"Call me old-fashioned." - Priya Massand, 30, from Flushing, NY
"Go that extra mile and do it face-to-face!" - Julienne Irons, 27, from Los Angeles, CA
"In person is always the best because you can read her better, but the phone is great as well." - JoAnna Di Tullio, 24, from Boston, MA
"Really, any of these work, but in person is always best. For some reason Facebook turns me off." - Jessi Odenbach, 28, from Chicago, IL
"Text and Facebook show that you can't take the time to see a person." - Ashley Potter, 26, from Milwaukee, WI
"Just because we're in the age of texting does not make it OK for a guy to be a chicken." - Shannon Harknett, 24, from New Orleans, LA
"Texts are overrated." - Sara Jagodzinski, 24, from Carol Stream, IL
"Face-to-face...best way!" - Jessica Angst, 23, from Palm Beach, FL
"Women love confident men; walking right up and asking her is a great way of not being rejected." - Sara Koch, 30, from Youngstown, OH
"Grow some balls and ask in person." - Danielle L, 26, from Chicago, IL
"If she's worth taking out on a date, she's worth the time and energy of a phone call at least." - Danielle L, 26, from Chicago, IL
"If she's worth taking out on a date, she's worth the time and energy of a phone call at least." - Susie Jones, 29, from Naples, Fl
"Your date is in person, so why not ask in person?" - Emily Pelton, 29, from Brooklyn, NY
"It takes more balls to ask in person so you'll get extra confidence points right off the bat." - Heather Callan, 25, from Chicago, IL
"This should be a given." - Mercedes Tahir, 23, from New York, NY
"In person!" - Marisa Zupan, 27, from Brooklyn, NY
"The more personal the better...and if not in person, then by phone." - Monique Lewis, 31, from New York, NY
"It depends on if you're close by, though." - Grace Kang, 29, from Los Angeles, CA
"Ideally, in person. But by phone is ok too." - Kate Cohen, 27, from Syosset, NY
"Come on, grow up." - Kate Cohen, 27, from Syosset, NY
"It's disrespectful and sad if you ask any other way." - Kira Wilkinson, 27, from Washington, DC
"We are all adults." - Pienby Laurence, 25, from Jersey City, NJ
"Every other way is cowardly. The worst I can say is 'no.' Plus, it'll be a sympathetic 'no.'" - Kelly Magsayo, 23, from La Jolla, CA
"Seriously? Have some balls. Plus, you get to see the excitement on her face when you finally do ;)" - Jackie Rivera, 25, from Miami, FL
"It's ALWAYS better to communicate face to face. It shows you're willing to put yourself out there." - Marianna Branda, 23, from Miami, FL
"Don't be a punk!" - Grace Hsieh, 22, from San Diego, CA
"It means more. But if you can't meet in person, ask on the phone. Less technology = more personal." - Sarah Conrad, 27, from New York, NY
"Put down the phone!" - Kelly Kaems, 30, from Kew Gardens, NY
"I hate texting and facebook!" - Gina Kim, 24, from San Diego, CA
"Call me old-fashioned, but 'in person' is still a rule, at least to set it up. After that, phone=ok." - Amy Liu, 23, from San Diego, CA
"A gentleman would not ask through facebook or text EVER." - Elise Stiller, 36, from Seaford, NY
"I think it's always best in person but these days, technology rules!" - Doris Parker, 27, from Springfield, MA
"Everything today is easy to type. Ask me in person, I'll be able to see how much you want to see me." - Wendy Liu, 23, from Alhambra, CA
"If someone is serious about a relationship, they should ask in person." - Vicky K, 25, from Chino Hills, CA
"More personable." - Senait Mengstab, 30, from San Francisco, CA
"It doesn't really matter though. I just like to see the guy sweat. lol." - Krissy P, 25, from NJ
"Either in person or over the phone. Enough with the texting and all that other stuff." - Regina Melzer, 32, from Los Angeles, CA
"It's the best way… sparks fly easier than through phone lines and internet connections!" - Nancy Spruiell, 43, from New York, NY
"Phone works too… FB & Text = no" - Ann Dang, 24, from San Diego, CA
"Anything else is just a demonstration of lack of balls." - Paula L, 28, from Miami, Florida
"The other options are just rude." - Vicky Kuo, 24, from San Diego, CA
"You're not hiding behind something that way." - Frankie Robinson, 36, from Chicago, IL
"It shows tenacity and bravery!" - Sara Bour, 23, from Urbana, IL
"It's much more romantic." - Sandy Tragos, 32, from Chicago, IL
"I am old school, if you send me a text, forget about it, there will not be a first date." - Nicole Laws, 30, from Fort Lauderdale, FL
"Technology is great, but man up and ask a girl in person." - Alicia Cohen, 37, from New York, NY
"Let's go back to the good old days when people communicated in person!" - Christina Johnson, 31, from New York, NY
"These days, any of the above would work." - Lisa Miao, 27, from New York, NY
"It's the hottest. Unless, of course, there's been a good deal of foreplay over some other outlet." - Anne C, 24, from Miami, FL
"It should totally be in person. So many people hide behind technology. Especially the internet." - Shelby Kovant, 25, from New York, NY
"ASK ME OUT IN PERSON!" - Elizabeth Fenwick, 23, from Berkeley, CA
"In person or over the phone is best. It shows you care enough to ask her out even if it means reject" - Amber Sellers, 33, from Brooklyn, NY
"Text & online are impersonal. Phone is OK, but 2nd best." - Erika Thomas, 25, from Miami, FL
"Technology has made boys lazy." - Tiffany Clarke, 25, from richmond, ca
"It shows maturity." - Sandy Tragos, 32, from Chicago, IL
"I am old school, if you send me a text, forget about it, there will not be a first date." - Mekalia Reid, 27, from New York, NY
"In person is best but phone is most likely, text and FB is a little too informal." - Karoline D'Angola, 24, from Bernardsville, NJ
"In person is always more genuine." - Lauren McHenry, 26, from Dallas, TX
"It shows you're confident… girls like confidence, but not cockiness." - Elinor N, 23, from New York, NY
"In person is charming, but a phone call isn't bad… facebook/texting would get an automatic 'no.'" - Karoline D'Angola, 24, from Bernardsville, NJ
"In person is always more genuine." - Cat Davis, 25, from New York, NY
"Come on now, text sucks. Facebook is even worse. Ask me in person!" - Angela H, 0, from North, CA
"It's a first date, act like it's important! DO NOT TEXT!!!" - Shelby Kovant, 25, from New York, NY
"ASK ME OUT IN PERSON!" - Molly Millett, 23, from San Francisco, CA
"It's more real that way." - Kate DAlleva, 25, from Morristown, NJ
"Ask me! I'll be less likely to say 'no' in person." - Francesca Lacuesta, 29, from Sacramento, CA
"Yes, technology has made meeting people more convenient, but romance isn't dead!" - Theresa G, 24, from San Francisco, CA
"Over the phone can be alright, if given the circumstance. No way with texting, email or internet. It" - Dominique Jackson, 29, from Los Angeles, CA
"Doesn't really matter but it would be cute to see the excitement in your face."
2%
Facebook
- Nadia Reiman, 28, from Brooklyn, NY
"But only if you know me from before. if you've never met me, in person for sure." - Becca Schepps, 29, from Brooklyn, NY
"It's easier."
7%
Text
- Kate Sample, 31, from Chicago, IL
"Any of the above are acceptable, as long as you base it off of evidence of her interest." - Jennifer Manghisi, 27, from New York, NY
"My time is extremely valuable to me so a quick text will do." - Brittany Caudle, 25, from New York, NY
"I make most plans via text." - Jennifer Manghisi, 27, from New York, NY
"My time is extremely valuable to me so a quick text will do." - Johanna Beyenbach, 29, from New York, NY
"I chose the most impersonal because it doesn't really matter. All communication is the same." - Aja Bernard, 27, from Brooklyn, NY
"I'm a text freak." - Emily Woolf, 26, from Brooklyn, NY
"Honestly it doesnt matter at all." - Jessica Barrutia, 24, from Chicago, IL
"Although more comfortable for you, it also gives us a better chance to say we are busy/lie." - Deborah Lau, 23, from La Jolla, CA
"It's not too serious and awkward in person but very friendly."
25%
Phone
- Schuyler Pham, 24, from Brooklyn, NY
"In person works too, but no Facebook... Its always nice when you receive a call for a date." - Laura Lefkowitz, 35, from New York, NY
"Be a man, pick up a phone." - Vanessa Jeong, 28, from San Leandro, CA
"First dates can be delicate matters. It'd be nice to at least hear your voice." - Tiffany Davis, 32, from San Diego, CA
"Phone is the best way because it is not as intimidating as being approached in person." - Ashley Becker, 26, from New York, NY and Miami, FL
"Sometimes in person is not an option. Phone, but don't text me, not at least for the first date." - Vida James, 28, from New York, NY
"In person is nice too. Texting is terrible and Facebook is worse." - Miana DeGardeyn, 33, from Chicago, IL
"Sometimes asking in person could be awkward and text/facebook can leave much interpretation.." - Britt Ancell, 26, from New York, NY
"So I can screen your call & decide if I like you..." - Jessica G, 25, from Boca Raton, FL
"Text and Facebook are means of life in 2009, but please phone first!" - Rachel U, 26, from New York, NY
"Easier to schedule the date plus a good opportunity to test out the witty banter ability." - Alison Dichter, 31, from New York, NY
"Or in person...but that's not always an option so phone. Text and Facebook are impersonal." - Miki Taka, 27, from Columbus, OH
"I would say, 'In person' but it would probably take a phone call to get that far." - Deeana Lowe-Chin, 24, from Miami, FL
"I'm assuming we've already met face to face if you want to ask me out so phone is fine." - Renee Lucas, 30, from New York, NY
"Phone or in person is best. Texting that early on is just impersonal and tacky." - Katrina Robinson, 28, from Charleston, SC
"Preferably in person, but on the phone is just fine." - Rachel U, 26, from New York, NY
"Phone calls show effort. Plus they allow for further getting to know each other." - Allison Baxley, 29, from New York, NY
"In person can be intimidating, so ease some of the pressure by taking away the face to face aspect." - Kylan Conroy, 24, from Chicago, IL
"But hey I have seen everything these days..from facebook to text!" - Shelly Kaplan, 28, from Chicago, IL
"It's polite; texting and facebooking-i wouldnt really consider it a 'date' more like an invite to ju" - Jacquelyn Tillotson, 31, from Miami Beach, FL
"This is the first test of communication skills." - Dominique Vance, 23, from New York, NY
"I'm a little old-fashioned - plus, I like when a guy has the balls to ask me properly.." - Jen Gsell, 29, from Reston, VA
"Phone is easiest because you don't have to worry about looking and sounding like an idiot." - Lucy Malcolm, 26, from New York, NY
"Texts work, too, depending on the circumstances. In person can be tough if you want to turn it down." - Vicky Chivy, 26, from San Diego, CA
"Personal, but not too personal." - Nora Lahl, 31, from Milwaukee, WI
"Eases the pressure if she says no, but it's still somewhat personal." - Jill Hanner, 34, from Astoria, NY
"We live in a digital age, but a phone call is still ideal." - Sherika Mair, 29, from West Palm Beach, FL
"I'm very old fashioned. I don't have facebook or twitter." - Claire Griffin, 28, from Charleston, SC
"Or in person. No texting or facebooking allowed." - Stephanie Singer, 30, from New York, NY
"In person would is best but not always feasible, at least over the phone you can hear the person." - Greta Eagan, 30, from New York, NY
"If you don't do it in person, at least do it on the phone- texting is lame." - Yisell Muxo, 35, from Miami, FL
"Always." - Kimone Campbell, 27, from Palm Beach, FL
"That's how it's done now." - Veronica Cheung, 24, from San Diego, CA
"Or in person"