How many dates before I can invite a girl up to my place?
25%
Two
- Pienby Laurence, 25, from Jersey City, NJ
"By two dates she should know if she wants to go to your place." - Ashley Potter, 26, from Milwaukee, WI
"It depends on what your intentions are once she's there." - Jill Hanner, 34, from Astoria, NY
"Don't force her to come inside, wait for the next date." - Marisa Zupan, 27, from Brooklyn, NY
"It's the only way to know if you want the third date." - Kate Bailey, 26, from Chicago, IL
"Assuming that the 1st date is something small, like coffee, and the 2nd is something bigger, like di" - Sara Koch, 30, from Youngstown, OH
"If you got a second date, you're probably doing well enough to not get shot down if you invite me up" - Vicky Kuo, 24, from San Diego, CA
"It doesn't mean we have to do anything dirty." - Veronica Cheung, 24, from San Diego, CA
"But going back to your place doesn't guarantee anything." - Vicky Kuo, 24, from San Diego, CA
"It depends on how comfortable you two are. Don't use her." - Susie Jones, 29, from Naples, Fl
"Whether she accepts the invitation or not, if she's into you, she will not be offended. Just ask." - Yisell Muxo, 35, from Miami, FL
"Depends" - Rachel U, 26, from New York, NY
"Try sooner than that it and looks like your priority is getting her upstairs…" - Christina Johnson, 31, from New York, NY
"It all depends on the heat of the fire." - Genevieve Melzer, 27, from San Francisco, CA
"She might think you want to be friends if you wait too long." - Jolene R, 24, from San Francisco, CA
"But don't expect too much. She can sense the pressure." - Christine Behrens, 24, from Oakland, CA
"If he's cool, sometimes I just like to see a guys place, but don't think that's an instant in to the" - Shelby Kovant, 25, from New York, NY
"Depends on what you plan to do at your place!" - Jen Gsell, 29, from Reston, VA
"This isn't 1922, no one's gonna get disembowled for “hanging out” after a date." - Allison Baxley, 29, from New York, NY
"Only if you're both feeling it." - Tiffany Clarke, 25, from richmond, ca
"But it depends on length of friendship proper to date." - Rachel U, 26, from New York, NY
"Unless there is a good reason, e.g. great view for drinks, you have an adorable pet, etc." - Mekalia Reid, 27, from New York, NY
"Only if you feel that things are going well and you make sure she doesn't feel pressure." - Renee Lucas, 30, from New York, NY
"Please have cleaned the place up a bit!" - Karoline D'Angola, 24, from Bernardsville, NJ
"As long as it seems like you're hitting it off." - Samantha Conniff, 24, from Brooklyn, NY
"It all depends on the chemistry." - Karoline D'Angola, 24, from Bernardsville, NJ
"As long as it seems like you're hitting it off." - Angela H, 0, from North, CA
"Don't be too agressive!!" - Tiffany Davis, 32, from San Diego, CA
"Inviting a girl to your place should be done on a casual level to hang out not to get her in bed." - Danielle L, 26, from Chicago, IL
"An invitation up doesn't have to have sexual overtones. Can be a way to spend time together in priva" - Shelby Kovant, 25, from New York, NY
"Depends on what you plan to do at your place!" - Jennifer Beio, 26, from Chicago, IL
"Depending on how you know the guy, how the dates went, etc." - Jacquelyn Tillotson, 31, from Miami Beach, FL
"You don't want to seem too pushy but if all goes well, she might want you on the first night!" - Katrina Robinson, 28, from Charleston, SC
"Depends on how the date goes. If it goes incredibly, I see no harm in inviting her up after."
41%
Three
- Kristin Castro, 24, from San Francisco, CA
"This number can definitely change depending on the circumstances of that night..." - Julienne Irons, 27, from Los Angeles, CA
"It really does depend on how the date goes. I find that sometimes guys don't really look for signs." - Rebecca Nashleanas, 25, from Los Angeles, CA
"Unless there is a purpose behind going to your place, like showing her your artwork or music collect" - Maya Calaway, 24, from Boston, MA
"Considering the dates are not too spaced out." - Ashley Becker, 26, from New York, NY and Miami, FL
"Chemistry might click sooner, but don't jump into the bedroom if you are really interested in her." - Amy S., 25, from Chicago, IL
"If I stay over after three dates, you best be making me breakfast in the morning!" - Carly Twisselman, 25, from Los Angeles, CA
"There really is not definite number to go by...you just don't want to rush it and you will know when" - Shannon Harknett, 24, from New Orleans, LA
"You can't make it seem like all you want is the girl in bed." - Amber Sellers, 33, from Brooklyn, NY
"If you are seriously digging this girl, wait." - Jessica G, 25, from Boca Raton, FL
"Give or take a day granted on your connection." - Justine Bour, 26, from Chicago, IL
"Depends on how serious you are about having a relationship with her, though." - Ashley Hayes, 24, from Los Angeles, CA
"Three dates, unless you really hit it off." - Claire Watkins, 25, from Santa Cruz, CA
"Third time's a charm! :)" - Lucy Malcolm, 26, from New York, NY
"But don't invite me up to your place unless you have wine, snacks, good movies and a clean bathroom." - Whitney R, 25, from Princeton, NJ
"The second date is acceptable, if 1) I'm really feeling you and 2) you are a gentleman about it." - Mercedes Tahir, 23, from New York, NY
"Three is the earliest, before that it would be uncomfortable." - Emily Pelton, 29, from Brooklyn, NY
"If it involves brownies and a movie, then awesome, but you shouldn't have too many expectations beyo" - Ashley Woolley, 25, from Chicago, IL
"Three is only an average - sometimes things develop more slowly, and sometimes I just can't resist!" - Vanessa Jeong, 28, from San Leandro, CA
"The third time's the charm!" - Stephanie Singer, 30, from New York, NY
"Depends on how well the date goes." - Alison Dichter, 31, from New York, NY
"Assuming she seems like she'd be interested and not taken aback." - Rosie Dehoyos, 29, from Dallas, TX
"Always go slow when you really like a girl." - Priya Massand, 30, from Flushing, NY
"Three if the vibe is right, but bump that up to 5 or 6 if there is any goofy behavior or rudeness." - Jessi Odenbach, 28, from Chicago, IL
"You'll know when it's right to ask." - Miana DeGardeyn, 33, from Chicago, IL
"Although there are no set rules - depends on the chemistry and the circumstances." - Sara Jagodzinski, 24, from Carol Stream, IL
"It really depends on the connection between you two." - Emily Woolf, 26, from Brooklyn, NY
"Depends how drunk you get on date 1 and 2." - Anna Bykova, 23, from San Francisco, CA
"Depends on how she reacts to you!" - Kylan Conroy, 24, from Chicago, IL
"There are, and have been exceptions to the rule." - Elizabeth Fenwick, 23, from Berkeley, CA
"She wants to feel respected, like you're not just trying to get into her pants." - Molly Millett, 23, from San Francisco, CA
"But it depends on the connection and chemistry." - Francesca Lacuesta, 29, from Sacramento, CA
"But it depends on chemistry and how much you've had to drink!" - Kate DAlleva, 25, from Morristown, NJ
"Don't screw up the goodnight kisses!" - Doris Parker, 27, from Springfield, MA
"Each date had to have been fun, filled with laughter and not too touchy-feely." - Gina Kim, 24, from San Diego, CA
"2 or 3. But be sure that you both have the same intentions!" - Kate Cohen, 27, from Syosset, NY
"You can try before but I won't come." - Cat Davis, 25, from New York, NY
"Unless I'm horny." - Lauren McHenry, 26, from Dallas, TX
"If she drops hints like 'Do you like your apartment?' or 'What are you doing later tonight?'" - Rosalind Sun, 23, from San Diego, CA
"It depends on what kind of dates they were, and how interested you feel the girl is." - Grace Kang, 29, from Los Angeles, CA
"But only IF all the dates go well!" - Frankie Robinson, 36, from Chicago, IL
"Depending on the vibe of the date and the person your on the date with." - Kelly Kaems, 30, from Kew Gardens, NY
"Depends on chemistry, how the dates go, and slightly on alchol intake…" - Sarah Conrad, 27, from New York, NY
"But the girl can invite on the second!!" - Kelly Magsayo, 23, from La Jolla, CA
"It depends on our prior relationship, whether we are acquaintences or complete strangers." - Regina Melzer, 32, from Los Angeles, CA
"Although there can always be exceptions to the rule!" - Kira Wilkinson, 27, from Washington, DC
"Could be after the second date depending on how things go. Taking it to the house is another level." - Wendy Liu, 23, from Alhambra, CA
"2 dates might be too soon, and 3 dates is just pefect. 4 or more dates may keep her impatient!" - Elise Stiller, 36, from Seaford, NY
"But it really all depends on the connection and chemistry!" - Nadia Reiman, 28, from Brooklyn, NY
"But it all depends on how well the date goes!" - Deeana Lowe-Chin, 24, from Miami, FL
"Maybe you should mention it in a joking way to see how she responds before just coming out with the" - Shelly Kaplan, 28, from Chicago, IL
"If she declines do not take offense." - Elizabeth Fenwick, 23, from Berkeley, CA
"She wants to feel respected, like you're not just trying to get into her pants." - Nora Lahl, 31, from Milwaukee, WI
"If you were already friends, all bets are off." - Deborah Lau, 23, from La Jolla, CA
"It depends if she's conservative or liberal."
16%
Four
- Alicia Cohen, 37, from New York, NY
"Well, if things are getting serious and we're talking alot by phone..." - Anne C, 24, from Miami, FL
"It depends on what that actually means and what your intentions are." - Nancy Spruiell, 43, from New York, NY
"My therapist says 6 dates." - Greta Eagan, 30, from New York, NY
"Lay the ground work." - Vida James, 28, from New York, NY
"Taking it slow is underrated." - Monique Lewis, 31, from New York, NY
"Situational" - Johanna Beyenbach, 29, from New York, NY
"It depends on what you call a date." - Jessica Angst, 23, from Palm Beach, FL
"Women are curious creatures... so keeping them guessing is always a good way to keep us on our toes." - Sherika Mair, 29, from West Palm Beach, FL
"I still fell uncomfortable with four. The person may still be a complete stranger at this point." - Dominique Vance, 23, from New York, NY
"I'm a commitment kind of girl - as long as that takes!" - Sandy Tragos, 32, from Chicago, IL
"People have to earn a good thing." - Luana Suciu, 25, from Boston, MA
"It depends why you invited her upstairs." - Sara Bour, 23, from Urbana, IL
"Take a few dates to get to know each other." - Krissy P, 25, from NJ
"Good things come to those who wait." - Erika San Miguel, 32, from Larkspur, CA
"Depends on how you carry yourself throughout the date and how much I like your sense of humor." - Amy Liu, 23, from San Diego, CA
"NEVER on the first date." - Paula L, 28, from Miami, Florida
"Don't want to bring her home too early." - Claire Griffin, 28, from Charleston, SC
"Depends on how well the dates go and how obvious it was that you wanted to take her up on the first." - Kimone Campbell, 27, from Palm Beach, FL
"Don't rush. Take your time." - Grace Hsieh, 22, from San Diego, CA
"It depends what you're going to do at your place…" - Ann Dang, 24, from San Diego, CA
"Depending on how comfortable I am with him."
18%
One
- Schuyler Pham, 24, from Brooklyn, NY
"You should know if you're doing well, and by all means don't be presumptuous or creepy." - JoAnna Di Tullio, 24, from Boston, MA
"It really depends on the connection, the way your personalities mix... but when it works, it works!" - Jackie Rivera, 25, from Miami, FL
"Only to further acquaint yourself. No nookie just yet. Unless it's undeniable for both of us…" - Kate Sample, 31, from Chicago, IL
"But only if the date has gone on for several hours, and neither of you are ready to say good-bye." - Marianna Branda, 23, from Miami, FL
"It's her decision to say yes or no." - Brittany Caudle, 25, from New York, NY
"Whenever it feels right. I usually know by the first date." - Jennifer Manghisi, 27, from New York, NY
"I always say in and out." - Elinor N, 23, from New York, NY
"If the date goes well I'd be flattered if he invited me to his place. The rest would be up to me." - Miki Taka, 27, from Columbus, OH
"Just go with the flow. If you get a good vibe, inviting a girl to your place is harmless." - Theresa G, 24, from San Francisco, CA
"It depends on WHO you picked up! ;-)" - Laura Lefkowitz, 35, from New York, NY
"No need to play by any hard and fast rules." - Nicole Laws, 30, from Fort Lauderdale, FL
"If the attraction is there, go for it!" - Jenna E, 32, from Davenport, IA
"If it's totally obvious you just want a piece once we get up there...I'm callin' a taxi!" - Dominique Jackson, 29, from Los Angeles, CA
"It's not a bad thing to test the waters early in the game." - Britt Ancell, 26, from New York, NY
"If it's going well, why wait?" - Lisa Miao, 27, from New York, NY
"Most girls these days wouldn't mind being asked up. It's flattering." - Erika Thomas, 25, from Miami, FL
"Tempt her with a Wii then go in for the kill ;)" - Aja Bernard, 27, from Brooklyn, NY
"it doesn't have to be sexual...i'm very laid back and like to have fun no matter what it is!" - Heather Callan, 25, from Chicago, IL
"Inviting a girl up should not imply anything other than, 'I just want to keep hanging with you.'" - Vicky Chivy, 26, from San Diego, CA
"I go at my own pace. It's really how i feel." - Senait Mengstab, 30, from San Francisco, CA
"Worst that can happen is she says no." - Becca Schepps, 29, from Brooklyn, NY
"But it all depends on what you're looking for in the girl." - Jessica Barrutia, 24, from Chicago, IL
"If the chemistry is there, it will be there automatically."