Don Q LadyData
The Female Perspective

How much gym time is right for a guy?

Her answer: As much as he needs to keep up with me
As much as he needs to stay healthly and in good shape.

Other questions from Dude 101 What's your version of fun outdoor activities?

Her answer: An invigorating hike
Getting out and enjoying nature while getting in a little exercise.

Other questions from Dating When it comes to tattoos, what's unacceptable subject matter?

Her answer: Naked Ladies
Tattoos are ok if they are tasteful and stand for something.

Other questions from Style What do you think of guys who cook?

Her answer: Always a good look
It's always cute if a guy cooks, even if he isn't the best cook.

Other questions from Dating When out to dinner, what looks good on a guy's plate?

Her answer: Anything, as long as it's not loud and messy
A guy should order whatever will make him happy.

Other questions from Dating During the courtship phase I like a guy who:

Her answer: Plays it cool, but is clear about his interest
A medium between playing hard to get and being overly attentive.

Other questions from Dating In matters of heart a guy should be:

Her answer: Hot-blooded
Sometimes logical reasoning just gets in the way.

Other questions from Dating When the two of you are together his eyes should be:

Her answer: Taking in the beauty of the world, me included.
I love a guy that takes the time to look at the world around him, especially if that includes me.

Other questions from Dating We've been dating for a week, and I surprise you with a weekend get-away in the country. Is that...

Her answer: Romantic.
As long as you are both on the same page with the relationship.

Other questions from Dating Is Valentine's Day a good day for a first date?

Her answer: Yes.
It can be romantic.

Other questions from Dating Are flowers still appreciated?

Her answer: Yes.
Flowers are always a sweet gift.

Other questions from Dating How long before jewelry is a required gift?

Her answer: 5 years.
Depends on the relationship and the level of committment.

Other questions from Dating Are you still thinking about your ex on this Valentine's Day?

Her answer: No.
Not worth it.

Other questions from Dating My lady claims she doesn't care about Valentine's Day. Is this a trap?

Her answer: Yes.
Usually women do care about it, even if they say they don't.

Other questions from Dating Regarding the gift of lingerie...

Her answer: Classless.
Unless you've been dating a while, it's a little tacky.

Other questions from Dating We've been dating for a week, and I surprise you with a weekend get-away in the country. Is that...

Her answer: Romantic.
As long as you are both on the same page with the relationship.

Other questions from Dating Is Valentine's Day a good day for a first date?

Her answer: Yes.
It can be romantic.

Other questions from Dating What is your ideal New Year's Eve night?

Her answer: Cozy-up by the fire
What could be better than sitting by the fire together and bringing in a new year?

Other questions from Nightlife For presents, is it the thought or the value that matters?

Her answer: The thought.
If you put lots of thought into a gift, it's more valuable than an expensive but thoughtless gift.

Other questions from Mr. Manners If you don't have a date for New Year's Eve, would you kiss a stranger?

Her answer: No.
It just seems a little strange to share such an intimate moment with a stranger.

Other questions from Mr. Manners Should we go to each others' office's holiday party?

Her answer: Of course
If significant others are allowed, why not?

Other questions from Nightlife For the New Year's Eve party, should I overdress or underdress?

Her answer: Overdress
Always better to be too dressed up than looking underdressed.

Other questions from Style When do in-law gifts become a standard?

Her answer: A few years into the relationship
Once the relationship is more serious.

Other questions from Mr. Manners If we go to your parents' house, should we try to sleep in the same bed or in separate ones?

Her answer: Separate
Just to show respect for the parents.

Other questions from Mr. Manners I'm shopping for a present, but I don't know your size. Better to go with:

Her answer: little too small?
Always err on the small size and give gift receipts.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Presenting mistle-toe under which to kiss:

Her answer: Cute
It's cute if it's done by the person you want to kiss.

Other questions from Nightlife Eggnog or rum punch?

Her answer: Eggnog
Around the holidays, eggnog just makes everything more festive.

Other questions from Nightlife Do I have to clean my feet in the shower, or do they clean themselves by the water that runs down?

Her answer: C'mon. Wash your feet.
It takes like two seconds to just wash them off.

Other questions from Dude 101 What's your take on fidgeting?

Her answer: Intensely annoying
If it happens occasionally it's fine, but if it's all the time it can get annoying.

Other questions from Dude 101 What do you think when you see two men engaged in debate?

Her answer: “Booooooring.”
Men never want to admit they are wrong, so that debate could last a long time.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Does she want pleasantry, or honesty?

Her answer: Can you not be pleasant and honest?
Honesty is very important, but it can be said in a pleasant way.

Other questions from Mr. Manners How important is it that a guy knows how to make a fancy cocktail?

Her answer: Not at all
Not necessary at all.

Other questions from Nightlife Who controls the music in the car?

Her answer: Driver
The driver can't be listening to something they don't like and still concentrate on the road.

Other questions from Mr. Manners What's the best Scorsese movie?

Her answer: The Departed
It's a tough choice, but I think The Departed wins for me.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Sharing of toothbrushes: okay or not okay?

Her answer: Use your finger
It's not ok initially, but maybe after you've been together a long time it would be less weird.

Other questions from Mr. Manners She starts moving toward the dance floor, what do you do?

Her answer: Try not to fall
Guys don't need to be amazing on the dance floor, they just need to have confidence.

Other questions from Dude 101 Is it possible for me to ask out a bartender, barista, or waitress?

Her answer: It is possible, but not recommended.
Most of the time they are only flirting with you to get you to buy more drinks and to tip them well.

Other questions from Nightlife I just lost my job. How long do I have until my girlfriend starts to get antsy?

Her answer: Depends how hard you're trying to find a job
Obviously she should be supportive, but if you aren't trying to get a job she's going to get antsy.

Other questions from Style How do you feel about Iowa?

Her answer: Love it.
I don't have really strong feelings either way, but it's an ok state.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Should I always ask you about your day?

Her answer: If I look like I need to talk.
It's not necessary, but if it seems like it's been a rough day, it'd be nice.

Other questions from Mr. Manners How long can we talk about politics?

Her answer: Thirty minutes.
Anything longer than a 30 min. conversation about politics will probably end up in a fight.

Other questions from Mr. Manners We're leaving. What do I do with my almost-finished beverage?

Her answer: Finish it.
Just finish it before you get up to leave.

Other questions from Nightlife If I'm a starving artist, do we have a chance?

Her answer: If you know how to be creative on a date.
Money really doesn't matter that much, especially if you can have an amazing time without it.

Other questions from Success To what extent should our interests overlap?

Her answer: Doesn't matter.
Interests should overlap a little, but it's good to have differences too.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise What's the proper cologne intensity for a guy?

Her answer: When I'm next to you.
Don't over do it.

Other questions from Dude 101 Beatles or Stones?

Her answer: Beatles
Both are great, but I love the Beatles.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Is it okay if I point out people's grammar mistakes?

Her answer: Totally unacceptable
It's so annoying for anyone to constantly point out grammar mistakes.

Other questions from Mr. Manners How often should I be talking to my mom on the phone?

Her answer: Once a week
At least once a month, but probably not daily.

Other questions from Dude 101 Can I eat garlic?

Her answer: Please don't.
It can be a huge hurdle in trying to carry on a conversation.

Other questions from Success If your dad has a sweet business, can/should you have him hook me up?

Her answer: Maybe?
Mixing business and family or relationship is dangerous, avoid unless it necessary.

Other questions from Success Does having many jobs on my resume look good or bad?

Her answer: What kind of jobs are we talking about?
A lot of entry-level jobs on your resume can show lack of commitment.

Other questions from Success Do you want to hear me talk about my (awesome) job?

Her answer: Talk about your other interests first
It's okay to talk a little bit about your job, but don't dwell on it.

Other questions from Success Who should be wearing sexy underwear?

Her answer: The lady.
Leave the sexy underwear to the women.

Other questions from Style Should I wear a blazer with my jeans?

Her answer: Depends where you're going
Some guys can pull it off.

Other questions from Style Do women notice when a man has a nice wallet?

Her answer: Yes, it shows style.
If it's nice and clean it shows style, but it doesn't need to be expensive or name brand.

Other questions from Style When should a guy use gel in his hair?

Her answer: Depends on his style.
I'm not a huge fan of gel, especially if it takes a man longer than me to fix his hair.

Other questions from Style When are athletic socks acceptable?

Her answer: Whenever
It doesn't really matter, as long as you don't wear them with dressy clothing.

Other questions from Style How should we celebrate our one-night-stand?

Her answer: Let's sneak away gracefully
Never experienced this, so I don't know what to say.

Other questions from Dating If a girl waxes, a guy should trim. True or false?

Her answer: TRUE
Doesn't really matter though.

Other questions from Dating What's the acceptable level of ex-interaction?

Her answer: Just don't cheat.
If they want to stay on good terms with an ex that is fine, just stay honest and loyal.

Other questions from Dating Who pays for contraception?

Her answer: The guy
No comment.

Other questions from Dating How intensely do you Facebook stalk?

Her answer: The bio section is enough
I like to see a little bit about them, but I don't need to pry.

Other questions from Dating Can I go to a strip club with my buddies?

Her answer: Under no circumstances.
It's really unattractive for a man to go to a strip club.

Other questions from Mr. Manners We're telling stories. How do you feel about stories including my ex?

Her answer: Tell the story, leave her out.
It's kind of weird to be telling a story about your ex.

Other questions from Mr. Manners How much should I tip the waiter?

Her answer: Twenty percent
Depends on if it is lunch or dinner, but a generous tip to good service is always really nice.

Other questions from Nightlife Can I leave my phone out when we're out at dinner?

Her answer: No.
A woman wants all the attention on her, not on your phone.

Other questions from Nightlife You're my boss, and you're hot. Where can we go from here?

Her answer: No can do. Pens OUT of company ink.
Relationships at the work place almost always lead to trouble, so just avoid it from the start.

Other questions from Success When a girl tells you how many partners she's had, it's usually...

Her answer: Dead-on.
Honesty is the most important part of the relationship.

Other questions from Dude 101 What should be manscaped?

Her answer: Leave it natural.
If I'm interested in you, I'm interested in you as a person, not how hairy you are.

Other questions from Dude 101 What type of body is best for a guy?

Her answer: Bigger than me.
Broad shoulders and athletic, but doesn't need to be cut.

Other questions from Dude 101 Does my collection of comic books count toward my knowledge of art and culture?

Her answer: Yes, it’s like understanding another universe.
It can count towards your knowledge of art, but hopefully you know more than just comic books.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise How long should you date before asking her on a weekend away?

Her answer: After the 'L' word.
If you want it to be a special weekend wait until after the 'L' word.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise What's the sexiest kind of facial hair on a guy?

Her answer: Stubble
I love the manly scruff on a guy.

Other questions from Style What kind of underwear is best on a guy?

Her answer: Boxer briefs
Not too tight and not too baggy.

Other questions from Style When does sexual history come up?

Her answer: Once we’re ‘serious’
It's something that should be kept private until you are in a serious relationship.

Other questions from Dating Do you Google search your date before meeting up with them?

Her answer: No
No, I'd rather give them a chance to introduce themselves and then Google search them after.

Other questions from Mr. Manners What should be in my fridge?

Her answer: Better be fully stocked
It's nice if a guy has a well stocked fridge. Shows that he can take care of himself.

Other questions from Mr. Manners When it comes to PDA, which base is acceptable in public?

Her answer: 1st
Holding hands and kissing is alright, but no more than that.

Other questions from Mr. Manners How important is it for a guy to notice your new haircut?

Her answer: Somewhat
It's nice to have a guy notice the difference.

Other questions from Mr. Manners Going to open-mic night makes me...

Her answer: The same
It could be interesting depending on the place.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise My buddy just broke up with his (awesome) girlfriend. When can I ask her out?

Her answer: 6 months
It depends on how close you guys are and how serious their relationship was.

Other questions from Dude 101 What's your take on public broadcasting?

Her answer: Unnecessary
While it is a great way to get news, the internet is a very easily accessible form of news.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise When is public flatulence OK?

Her answer: Only if you’ve got a legitimate problem
It should be avoided at all costs.

Other questions from Mr. Manners How do you feel about Judd Apatow?

Her answer: Hilarious
While some of his humor can be a little offensive, he is still hilarious.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise What's the most important thing a guy should be reading?

Her answer: Books
It's nice to be able to discuss literature with a guy.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise I get all my news from Jon Stewart. Is that OK?

Her answer: Yep
While it is good to have a more legitimate source, Jon Stewart does hit a lot of the basics.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise What's the maximum number of days I can wear the same underwear?

Her answer: 1 day
Underwear is definitely something you should never wear more than once.

Other questions from Dude 101 Which way does toilet paper go?

Her answer: Over
It doesn't really matter though.

Other questions from Dude 101 How frequently do you think guys look at porn?

Her answer: Once a week
It probably depends on the guy though.

Other questions from Dude 101 Bros before hoes. Your thoughts?

Her answer: There’s a time and a place
It depends on the circumstances.

Other questions from Dude 101 My best buddy told me a secret. Should I tell my girlfriend?

Her answer: If you love your girl, tell her.
It depends on the level of secret, and the level of secret-keeping ability your girl has.

Other questions from Dude 101 Do I open the doors, or does she?

Her answer: You do.
It's always nice to have a guy act chivalrous.

Other questions from Mr. Manners I'm at dinner with no cash and they don't take plastic. What now?

Her answer: Get thee to an ATM after a massive apology.
Just explain the situation and find an ATM and hurry back.

Other questions from Dude 101 My friends are getting married and I'm broke. What should I get them?

Her answer: A handwritten card shows that you care.
Handmade gifts cost very little but mean a lot because of the time and effort.

Other questions from Mr. Manners What's the best birthday present to give to a male friend?

Her answer: A night on the town.
A laid back night at a upscale lounge.

Other questions from Mr. Manners What's the best hangover cure?

Her answer: Not getting super drunk.
Just know your limits and you won't have to go through the hangover period.

Other questions from Nightlife Does listing the places I've been make me seem pretentious?

Her answer: No
It's fine to list them if the topic comes up, but don't dwell on the trips.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Liquor before beer, in the clear: true or false?

Her answer: Neither
Depends how much you have of each.

Other questions from Nightlife Two good drinks or four crummy drinks?

Her answer: 2 good
It's all about the quality not the quantity. You want to enjoy the drinks!

Other questions from Nightlife Is checking my coat lame or just good sense?

Her answer: No, why have the extra baggage?
Of all the things you say and do, I promise you're not going to be called lame this.

Other questions from Nightlife Should I buy shots for the cute girls at the bar?

Her answer: No, they’re just using you.
When you buy shots it tells girls that you are trying to get with them. In the end: lose-lose.

Other questions from Nightlife What looks best in a guy's hand?

Her answer: Liquor, straight up
Makes a man seem very strong while a beer or shots makes him seem like a frat boy.

Other questions from Nightlife I've spilled red wine on myself. What do I do?

Her answer: Club soda, stat!
Try to get the stain out immediately or change clothes as quickly as possible.

Other questions from Nightlife First date: would you rather a guy overdress or underdress?

Her answer: Overdress
It's nice to know that they guys cares enough to make an effort.

Other questions from Style When is a mustache a fail?

Her answer: 60% of the time
Certain men can pull off the well trimmed and groomed mustache, but most of the time it's a fail.

Other questions from Style Do you care what a guy does for a living?

Her answer: Not really
If he loves what he does, then that is what matters most.

Other questions from Success Two polos at once?

Her answer: Stupid
It looks good in magazine ads, but very few men can pull off the look; seems somewhat pretentious.

Other questions from Style Does my title matter?

Her answer: No
While titles may seem important, it's a minor part of who you are.

Other questions from Success What financial level should a guy be at compared to you?

Her answer: Higher
It really doesn't matter what level he is at as long as he is in a comfortable financial situation.

Other questions from Success Drinks with coworkers: important part of getting ahead?

Her answer: Not necessary. Just do your job!
It's more important to show them what you can do in the office on a daily basis.

Other questions from Success I'm negotiating for a raise. What's my first move?

Her answer: Research! Talk to recruiters, friends, and colleagues.
See how colleagues have approached the topic, look around for offers, and keep working.

Other questions from Success I hate networking events. What should I do?

Her answer: Practice your elevator speech until it’s natural.
It's all about how you convey yourself to people, so get out there and be confident.

Other questions from Success Should socks match the blazer or the slacks (if they're different colors)?

Her answer: Slacks
Socks should usually match the slacks.

Other questions from Style Skinny jeans (for him): in or out?

Her answer: Out
I don't find skinny jeans attractive on men at all.

Other questions from Style Pointy shoes: in or out?

Her answer: Out
Some guys can pull them off.

Other questions from Style What's your take on guys having a sense of style?

Her answer: I’d prefer he focus on more important issues
I like guys that can look good but don't need to primp more than I do.

Other questions from Style How should I ask for a first date?

Her answer: In person
In person is the best way because it shows you are serious.

Other questions from Dating Could you date a guy if you didn't really like his mother?

Her answer: It depends on the level of hate.
It depends on how serious the relationship was getting and how intrusive the mother was.

Other questions from Dating Asking out a stranger you see every day: weird or romantic?

Her answer: Romantic
If there is a continual flirtation that leads to asking them out, that is romantic.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Do you believe in love at first sight?

Her answer: Yes
I think that love at first sight is possible, although hard to find.

Other questions from Dating I prefer guys that are...

Her answer: Funny
I love a man that can make me laugh.

Other questions from Dude 101 I like guys that are...

Her answer: Taller than me
I prefer taller guys, but it's all about the confidence the man exudes.

Other questions from Dating Bald spots are...

Her answer: A turn-off
However some men can really pull it off.

Other questions from Dating How long should I wait to call her back?

Her answer: One day
Girls don't want men to call too quickly because then they seem too eager.

Other questions from Dating How many dates before I can invite a girl up to my place?

Her answer: Three
Unless there is a purpose behind going to your place, like showing her your artwork or music collect

Other questions from Style Would you cheat on a partner if you knew that you could get away with it?

Her answer: No way. I'd know and that's all that matters.
Cheating is always wrong.

Other questions from Dating Do you have to break up with someone in person?

Her answer: Absolutely. You've got to show some respect.
Yes, face to face is the only appropriate way.

Other questions from Mr. Manners Would you ever have an office relationship?

Her answer: If it wasn't going to get around, sure.
Maybe, it's hard to choose who you fall in love with.

Other questions from Dating At what age do you think men start losing their looks?

Her answer: 60s
Although if you love someone you won't really care about their looks when you're older.

Other questions from Style Do you believe in marriage?

Her answer: Yes
It's nice to think of finding someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Other questions from Dating Do you use an online dating site?

Her answer: Nope
I'm not opposed to it, but I've never tried it.

Other questions from Dating How often do you read a partner's Facebook messages

Her answer: Never
Their messages are their business.

Other questions from Mr. Manners What do you think motivates men to be romantic?

Her answer: Feeling close to their partner
It's nice to think that they are romantic because they want to get to know their partner better.

Other questions from Dating If one were available, do you think most guys would take a male birth control pill?

Her answer: It depends on the guy
Maybe and maybe not, depends on the guy.

Other questions from Dude 101 Do you think most men are satisfied with their sex lives?

Her answer: Yes
Not sure.

Other questions from Dating How long into a relationship should the guy pay for dates?

Her answer: The first few dates
It's nice for a guys to court a woman for the first few dates at least.

Other questions from Dude 101 What do you consider the ultimate manly drink?

Her answer: Bourbon straight, no chaser.
Very manly drink.

Other questions from Nightlife What's your favorite part of the male anatomy?

Her answer: Arms
It's always nice to have strong arms holding you.

Other questions from Dude 101 Do you believe that real men cry?

Her answer: Of course
It's natural.

Other questions from Dating What do you consider when choosing a new job?

Her answer: The opportunity to advance
Everyone wants to be able to work towards something better.

Other questions from Success What do you think is the ultimate male status symbol?

Her answer: Family
Either family or career, but I'd hope he would say family.

Other questions from Success How often do you text your friends?

Her answer: Hourly
It's just easier than calling.

Other questions from Mr. Manners What do you think men think of breast implants?

Her answer: I find them gross and I hope guys do as well.
I'd hope that men appreciate a woman's natural beauty.

Other questions from Dude 101 How have your spending habits changed since the recession?

Her answer: I'm cutting back on shopping.
No harm in saving a little for a rainy day.

Other questions from Success How do you take your drink?

Her answer: Straight up
Just plain and simple.

Other questions from Nightlife What's your bar style?

Her answer: A nice lounge with top-shelf cocktails
Classy, calm, and sophisticated.

Other questions from Nightlife When you go out:

Her answer: I stick to one type of drink the whole night
Stay with what I know is good.

Other questions from Nightlife Guys who order cocktails by brand name (ex. "I'll have a Don Q Mojito"):

Her answer: Are true connoisseurs
It's nice to see a man who knows what he likes.

Other questions from Nightlife What's your home bartending style?

Her answer: Bust out the blender, we're making piña coladas.
Anything exciting and tasty is good.

Other questions from Nightlife If you're at a crowded bar, what's the best way to get a bartender's attention?

Her answer: Lean all the way over the bar
Depends on the bar and the bartender.

Other questions from Nightlife What's your take on bar flair (ie. flipping bottles, breathing fire, etc.)?

Her answer: Sexy
It takes talent to do those things, and talent is sexy.

Other questions from Nightlife Do you have a mojito preference?

Her answer: Black and Blue (with blackberries and blueberries)
They all sound tasty, but black and blue are the best.

Other questions from Nightlife What's your favorite Don Q cocktail?

Her answer: Black & Blue Mojito
All of the above sound great though.

Other questions from Nightlife Which of these options most closely describes what you're looking for in your next relationship?

Her answer: Buzz off - I'm already in a relationship
Happily taken

Other questions from Dating How do you feel about falling in love?

Her answer: I love it!
It's bliss.

Other questions from Dating How important is a sense of humor?

Her answer: Very important
Gotta make me laugh.

Other questions from Dating How important is it that your partner be willing and able to participate in meaningful philosophical conversations?

Her answer: Somewhat important
I love to have meaningful conversations.

Other questions from Dating Do you Google someone before a first date?

Her answer: No
No they ask me out.

Other questions from Dating Do you Google someone before a first date?

Her answer: No. Why spoil the mystery?
No, but it's a good idea.

Other questions from Dating If a potential mate is overweight, is that a deal-breaker?

Her answer: No.
Not necessarily.

Other questions from Dating Your significant other's ex is coming into town and he/she wants to go out to dinner with them alone. How do you react?

Her answer: Not thrilled, but go ahead.
Gotta let them have their freedom.

Other questions from Dating What's worse on a first date?

Her answer: Nothing to talk about
Sometimes silence is deadly.

Other questions from Dating How are you most likely to show your partner you care?

Her answer: Touch: Give them a hug, massage or kiss
All of the above

Other questions from Dating Would you be okay with your significant other spending a lot of time with one of their exes (as a friend)?

Her answer: No
A little is fine, but not a lot

Other questions from Dating Would you be willing to date someone who plays video games almost every day, for at least 2 hours?

Her answer: Yes, but I would not play that much.
I like to watch

Other questions from Dating How important is it to you that your partner smell good?

Her answer: Important-ish
It's nice

Other questions from Dating Have you ever been in love?

Her answer: Yes
Deeply

Other questions from Dating In a serious relationship, do you feel it's important to keep your significant other informed of the details of your day-to-day life?

Her answer: Some
It's nice to talk and keep each other informed

Other questions from Dating Would you ever date or mess around with a good friend's ex?

Her answer: No
Not worth it

Other questions from Dating Would you get upset if your significant other flirted in front of you?

Her answer: Yes
Not very respectful of them

Other questions from Dating Which would you rather be?

Her answer: Normal
Not too normal though, I like a little spice to life

Other questions from Dude 101 When men show extra courtesy toward women (opening doors, pulling out chairs, etc.), this is:

Her answer: Unnecessary but appreciated.
It's courteous

Other questions from Mr. Manners Which of the following types of intelligence do you most value?

Her answer: Social/interpersonal
Helps bring me out of my shell.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise