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The Female Perspective

What is your ideal New Year's Eve night?

Her answer: Big party
I think the best night is a combination but if i had to choose, I'd say a great party with friends

Other questions from Nightlife For presents, is it the thought or the value that matters?

Her answer: The thought.
Absolutely the thought, I could care less what it cost.

Other questions from Mr. Manners If you don't have a date for New Year's Eve, would you kiss a stranger?

Her answer: Why not?
Ring in the new year with a little spot of affection. It's a nice kick start

Other questions from Mr. Manners Should we go to each others' office's holiday party?

Her answer: No, thanks
It depends on your office culture and relationship. Probably shouldn't mix business with pleasure.

Other questions from Nightlife For the New Year's Eve party, should I overdress or underdress?

Her answer: Overdress
Do it for yourself but enjoy dressing up. There are few opportunities to really dress up these days.

Other questions from Style When do in-law gifts become a standard?

Her answer: A few years into the relationship
Nothing extravagant, you could even just send a nice card. But do something.

Other questions from Mr. Manners If we go to your parents' house, should we try to sleep in the same bed or in separate ones?

Her answer: Separate
Most parents won't care, but to show respect that this isn't your home, offer to sleep separately.

Other questions from Mr. Manners I'm shopping for a present, but I don't know your size. Better to go with:

Her answer: little too small?
Definitely a little too small.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Presenting mistle-toe under which to kiss:

Her answer: Cute
I guess it really depends on who it is that's presenting the mistle-toe...

Other questions from Nightlife Eggnog or rum punch?

Her answer: Eggnog
It's smoother and so enjoyable in little sips.

Other questions from Nightlife Do I have to clean my feet in the shower, or do they clean themselves by the water that runs down?

Her answer: C'mon. Wash your feet.
They do not wash themselves.

Other questions from Dude 101 What's your take on fidgeting?

Her answer: Hardly a habit
Depends on the intensity of the fidgeting.

Other questions from Dude 101 What do you think when you see two men engaged in debate?

Her answer: “Ooh, sexy.”
If it's intelligent and not for show.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Does she want pleasantry, or honesty?

Her answer: Honesty
Except if you cheated and aren't planning on stopping.

Other questions from Mr. Manners How important is it that a guy knows how to make a fancy cocktail?

Her answer: Not at all
That's what you can pay other people to do.

Other questions from Nightlife Who controls the music in the car?

Her answer: Driver
Driver has veto power but it's whoever wants to deal with the controversy.

Other questions from Mr. Manners What's the best Scorsese movie?

Her answer: The Departed
Boston love.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Sharing of toothbrushes: okay or not okay?

Her answer: Use your finger
It's about hygiene.

Other questions from Mr. Manners She starts moving toward the dance floor, what do you do?

Her answer: Show her your moves
Get involved.

Other questions from Dude 101 Is it possible for me to ask out a bartender, barista, or waitress?

Her answer: If there's chemistry, why not?
As long as you are not also out on a date with someone else. It's happened, and it's not pretty.

Other questions from Nightlife I just lost my job. How long do I have until my girlfriend starts to get antsy?

Her answer: Depends how hard you're trying to find a job
There's nothing worse than apathy.

Other questions from Style How do you feel about Iowa?

Her answer: Love it.
Good writers come from there.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Should I always ask you about your day?

Her answer: It's mandatory, every day.
Care!

Other questions from Mr. Manners How long can we talk about politics?

Her answer: Thirty minutes.
At a time. But really, I will talk about anything at length as long as it's intelligent conversation

Other questions from Mr. Manners We're leaving. What do I do with my almost-finished beverage?

Her answer: Ditch it.
Do what you want.

Other questions from Nightlife If I'm a starving artist, do we have a chance?

Her answer: No chance, sorry!
I've done it before and there's a lack of equality that detracts from the relationship.

Other questions from Success To what extent should our interests overlap?

Her answer: I'm interested in what DOESN'T overlap.
If i dated someone interested in all the same things as me, I wouldn't go on more than one date.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise What's the proper cologne intensity for a guy?

Her answer: When I'm close to you.
No one wants to be assaulted by your man perfume.

Other questions from Dude 101 Beatles or Stones?

Her answer: Beatles
Always good.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Is it okay if I point out people's grammar mistakes?

Her answer: It's all in good fun
As long as you do it in the right context and nicely.

Other questions from Mr. Manners How often should I be talking to my mom on the phone?

Her answer: Once a week
Mama's boy=unattractive. Misogynistic pig=also unattractive. Strike a balance!

Other questions from Dude 101 Can I eat garlic?

Her answer: Just as long as we both are.
No one likes the dragon breath. Check gum afterwards!

Other questions from Success If your dad has a sweet business, can/should you have him hook me up?

Her answer: Maybe?
If you're interested in being a positive contributing part of the business

Other questions from Success Does having many jobs on my resume look good or bad?

Her answer: Bad!
I generally think it shows an inability to commit.

Other questions from Success Do you want to hear me talk about my (awesome) job?

Her answer: Let me be the judge of your awesomeness
If you're excited about it, i want to know about it.

Other questions from Success Who should be wearing sexy underwear?

Her answer: The lady.
It's like the wallet on a guy...attention to detail.

Other questions from Style Should I wear a blazer with my jeans?

Her answer: If you want to look like a loser.
Not ok.

Other questions from Style Do women notice when a man has a nice wallet?

Her answer: Yes, it shows style.
It shows he cares aboutt details.

Other questions from Style When should a guy use gel in his hair?

Her answer: Depends on his style.
But usually no... I like to run my hands through that.

Other questions from Style When are athletic socks acceptable?

Her answer: Only when playing sports.
...Or for his personal time...

Other questions from Style How should we celebrate our one-night-stand?

Her answer: A kiss
Sweet and simple.

Other questions from Dating If a girl waxes, a guy should trim. True or false?

Her answer: TRUE
Nobody wants to floss with your pubes.

Other questions from Dating What's the acceptable level of ex-interaction?

Her answer: Keep the exes in the past.
Most men are too weak to maintain a purely platonic relationship with an ex.

Other questions from Dating Who pays for contraception?

Her answer: The girl
My body, my non-baby...not leaving anything to chance.

Other questions from Dating How intensely do you Facebook stalk?

Her answer: I want to see pretty much everything
Even though i know Facebppl is pretty superficial, it does give a good overview.

Other questions from Dating Can I go to a strip club with my buddies?

Her answer: Just don’t tell me about it.
I don't mind at all, I actually like hearing about it, or going. No reason to be weird about it.

Other questions from Mr. Manners We're telling stories. How do you feel about stories including my ex?

Her answer: A story is a story is a story.
I'm going to assume that she's your ex for a reason and not be threatened.

Other questions from Mr. Manners How much should I tip the waiter?

Her answer: Twenty percent
Always. It's about respect.

Other questions from Nightlife Can I leave my phone out when we're out at dinner?

Her answer: No.
Rude. Absolutely not during dinner. Or in bed.

Other questions from Nightlife You're my boss, and you're hot. Where can we go from here?

Her answer: No can do. Pens OUT of company ink.
Absolutely not. Way too complicated - unless you don't care about keeping your job.

Other questions from Success When a girl tells you how many partners she's had, it's usually...

Her answer: Dead-on.
Unless she has something to hide...

Other questions from Dude 101 What should be manscaped?

Her answer: Your hairy private parts.
Barring extenuating circumstances.

Other questions from Dude 101 What type of body is best for a guy?

Her answer: Muscly and cut.
But I always end up with skinny boys who I love too. Always have to be bigger than me. Just manly.

Other questions from Dude 101 Does my collection of comic books count toward my knowledge of art and culture?

Her answer: Yes, it’s like understanding another universe.
Definitely a sub-culture and interest in something other than yourself is always attractive.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise How long should you date before asking her on a weekend away?

Her answer: Doesn’t matter
Every relationship is different...feel it out, but don't lead her on.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise What's the sexiest kind of facial hair on a guy?

Her answer: Stubble
Love the slightly stubbled look.

Other questions from Style What kind of underwear is best on a guy?

Her answer: Boxer briefs
The pocket!

Other questions from Style When does sexual history come up?

Her answer: First date
It's a fun and easy topic to delve into.

Other questions from Dating Do you Google search your date before meeting up with them?

Her answer: No
I usually know the person from another context.

Other questions from Mr. Manners Which way does toilet paper go?

Her answer: Over
Just look at hotels and how they do it.

Other questions from Dude 101 How frequently do you think guys look at porn?

Her answer: Daily
I'm pretty sure this is mostly true.

Other questions from Dude 101 Bros before hoes. Your thoughts?

Her answer: There’s a time and a place
Loyalty is important and if your 'bros' are your best friends then they would definitely come first.

Other questions from Dude 101 What's the maximum number of days I can wear the same underwear?

Her answer: 1 day
Non negotiable.

Other questions from Dude 101 My buddy just broke up with his (awesome) girlfriend. When can I ask her out?

Her answer: Never. It’s guy code.
I dated an ex's friend after 5 years. It still sometimes feels weird.

Other questions from Dude 101 My best buddy told me a secret. Should I tell my girlfriend?

Her answer: Never! Keep it in confidence.
Circle of trust.

Other questions from Dude 101 My best buddy told me a secret. Should I tell my girlfriend?

Her answer: Never! Keep it in confidence.
Circle of trust.

Other questions from Dude 101 I'm at dinner with no cash and they don't take plastic. What now?

Her answer: Get thee to an ATM after a massive apology.
Just make it right.

Other questions from Dude 101 What's your take on public broadcasting?

Her answer: Indispensable
It's all part of the dialog.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise How do you feel about Judd Apatow?

Her answer: Hilarious
Well. Both.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise What's the most important thing a guy should be reading?

Her answer: Anything at all
I'm functionally illiterate so I like someone I can respect.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise I get all my news from Jon Stewart. Is that OK?

Her answer: Yep
Kind of sad, but not that bad.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Going to open-mic night makes me...

Her answer: The same
Don't really care.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Travel to a foreign country is...

Her answer: An essential part of growing up
I did it and there's no education like seeing the world through other people's eyes...

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Does listing the places I've been make me seem pretentious?

Her answer: No
Unless it's all you talk about, and you think it makes you better than other people...

Other questions from Worldy-Wise What should be in my fridge?

Her answer: Better be fully stocked
Wouldn't you want the good stuff around?

Other questions from Mr. Manners When it comes to PDA, which base is acceptable in public?

Her answer: 1st
Unless it's dark out. Then anything goes. The night time is the right time.

Other questions from Mr. Manners How important is it for a guy to notice your new haircut?

Her answer: Somewhat
But I get my hair cut twice a year so it's doesn't really matter.

Other questions from Mr. Manners When is public flatulence OK?

Her answer: Never
Gross.

Other questions from Mr. Manners Do I open the doors, or does she?

Her answer: You do.
No question.

Other questions from Mr. Manners Do I open the doors, or does she?

Her answer: You do.
No question.

Other questions from Mr. Manners My friends are getting married and I'm broke. What should I get them?

Her answer: A handwritten card shows that you care.
People always appreciate the gift that took thought and care over the one that cost a lot.

Other questions from Mr. Manners What's the best birthday present to give to a male friend?

Her answer: A night on the town.
Giving him a good time is probably a solid bet. That and a book.

Other questions from Mr. Manners What's the best hangover cure?

Her answer: Brunch!
Nothing like a drink to get over the morning fog.

Other questions from Nightlife Two good drinks or four crummy drinks?

Her answer: 2 good
Quality over quantity every time.

Other questions from Nightlife Should I buy shots for the cute girls at the bar?

Her answer: Yes. But they’re just using you.
But then again, one of them might actually like you.

Other questions from Nightlife I've spilled red wine on myself. What do I do?

Her answer: Wear it with pride.
Bruises are also badges of pride.

Other questions from Nightlife Liquor before beer, in the clear: true or false?

Her answer: True
I'm guessing. I mix all the time.

Other questions from Nightlife Is checking my coat lame or just good sense?

Her answer: No, why have the extra baggage?
No one likes getting clubbed in the face by a park while trying to dance.

Other questions from Nightlife What looks best in a guy's hand?

Her answer: Liquor, straight up
I love me a man who sips a strong drink. I don't know why.

Other questions from Nightlife Do you care what a guy does for a living?

Her answer: Of course
Him being happy and fulfilled in what he does brings the most richness to our relationshp.

Other questions from Success Does my title matter?

Her answer: Yes
I'm not sure what this means but whatever titles I've had I want to be respected for.

Other questions from Success What financial level should a guy be at compared to you?

Her answer: Higher
I respect guys who love what they do and really go after it in every aspect of their life.

Other questions from Success Drinks with coworkers: important part of getting ahead?

Her answer: Not necessary. Just do your job!
But it is nice. Not a must though.

Other questions from Success I'm negotiating for a raise. What's my first move?

Her answer: Put together a list of your recent accomplishments.
Just be as proactive as possible. Don't assume that your bosses know exactly what you've accomplishe

Other questions from Success I hate networking events. What should I do?

Her answer: Bring friends to make things more comfortable.
Allow them to help draw out your best qualities so that others can see and come to you.

Other questions from Success First date: would you rather a guy overdress or underdress?

Her answer: Overdress
Yeah, act like you give a sh*t.

Other questions from Style When is a mustache a fail?

Her answer: 60% of the time
You have to have the right face. And too much going on around the mouth is never a good thing.

Other questions from Style Two polos at once?

Her answer: Stupid
One is bad enough.

Other questions from Style Skinny jeans (for him): in or out?

Her answer: In
I've become an absolute connoisseur of the outline that results.

Other questions from Style Should socks match the blazer or the slacks (if they're different colors)?

Her answer: Slacks
Make it look good.

Other questions from Style Pointy shoes: in or out?

Her answer: In
Out on boys. But a classic rounded toe never goes out. Think 'Mad Men'.

Other questions from Style What's your take on guys having a sense of style?

Her answer: It’s an absolute must
I just think that a sense of style is indicative of a sense of self and that's the most important.

Other questions from Style How should I ask for a first date?

Her answer: In person
It's the hottest. Unless, of course, there's been a good deal of foreplay over some other outlet.

Other questions from Dating Could you date a guy if you didn't really like his mother?

Her answer: Absolutely not.
If he hated her too then I wouldn't care what she was like.

Other questions from Dating Asking out a stranger you see every day: weird or romantic?

Her answer: Romantic
Everyone knows that the #1 thing a woman needs is to feel wanted.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Do you believe in love at first sight?

Her answer: Yes
Never experienced it but still hope it happens.

Other questions from Dating I prefer guys that are...

Her answer: Pretty
I've dated beautiful and not bright and never even given a chance to the brilliant but ugly.

Other questions from Dude 101 I like guys that are...

Her answer: Taller than me
I think that on a primal level, I want my offspring to have a chance at not being a midget.

Other questions from Dating Bald spots are...

Her answer: Not a problem
I mean, I love guys with shaved heads and don't mind receding hairlines.

Other questions from Dating How long should I wait to call her back?

Her answer: Immediately
There's no reason for emotional origami. The rule is to just be honest with yourself and her.

Other questions from Dating How many dates before I can invite a girl up to my place?

Her answer: One
Most girls these days wouldn't mind being asked up. It's flattering.

Other questions from Style Which of these options most closely describes what you're looking for in your next relationship?

Her answer: Buzz off - I'm already in a relationship
When you know, you know.

Other questions from Dating How do you feel about falling in love?

Her answer: I like to just let it happen
Falling out of love hurts more, but when it just happens, it's an amazing thing.

Other questions from Dating How important is a sense of humor?

Her answer: Very important
Life is crazy enough, if you can't laugh about it every once in a while, what are we doing?

Other questions from Dating How important is it that your partner be willing and able to participate in meaningful philosophical conversations?

Her answer: Extremely important
Intellectual equality is important to me.

Other questions from Dating If you like someone a lot, do you usually ask them out?

Her answer: No
If he doens't have the gumption to ask me, then he's probably not worth my time.

Other questions from Dating Do you Google someone before a first date?

Her answer: Yes. Knowledge is power!
I think it's only considered creepy in hindsight if something compromising is uncovered.

Other questions from Dating If a potential mate is overweight, is that a deal-breaker?

Her answer: Yes, but only if they were obese.
I think there's a difference between winter weight and lack of self respect.

Other questions from Dating Your significant other's ex is coming into town and he/she wants to go out to dinner with them alone. How do you react?

Her answer: Not thrilled, but go ahead.
If I trust the guy, I'd let him go away with the ex, if I don't trust him, I'd be annoyed if he txtd.

Other questions from Dating What's worse on a first date?

Her answer: Nothing to talk about
I like to date people who I would also consider my best friends--I'm not attracted to all my friends.

Other questions from Dating How are you most likely to show your partner you care?

Her answer: Touch: Give them a hug, massage or kiss
I love giving hugs and kisses.

Other questions from Dating Would you be okay with your significant other spending a lot of time with one of their exes (as a friend)?

Her answer: Yes
It really depends on who my SO is and what his history with his ex is.

Other questions from Dating Would you be willing to date someone who plays video games almost every day, for at least 2 hours?

Her answer: No.
Someone who spends that much time not engaging in the real world is not my kind of guy.

Other questions from Dating How important is it to you that your partner smell good?

Her answer: Important-ish
Just smell good enough to smell clean, I don't want to be smacked in the face by his cologne.

Other questions from Dating Have you ever been in love?

Her answer: Yes
Yes. And it's wonderful and terrifying at the same time.

Other questions from Dating In a serious relationship, do you feel it's important to keep your significant other informed of the details of your day-to-day life?

Her answer: Yes
Yes, just from the perspective that it allows you to connect regularly.

Other questions from Dating Would you ever date or mess around with a good friend's ex?

Her answer: No
Just no. That's against the rules.

Other questions from Dating Would you get upset if your significant other flirted in front of you?

Her answer: Yes
I used to let it happen but now I know better. That's so disrespectful.

Other questions from Dating Which would you rather be?

Her answer: Weird
I grew up in a super religious community, I've always been "weird" so I guess I prefer it.

Other questions from Dude 101 When men show extra courtesy toward women (opening doors, pulling out chairs, etc.), this is:

Her answer: Admirable and desirable – chivalry's not dead.
Courtesy, from men and women, goes a long way.

Other questions from Mr. Manners Which of the following types of intelligence do you most value?

Her answer: Social/interpersonal
I think I have a pretty honed EQ, I couldn't be with someone who didn't have some EQ.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise