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The Female Perspective

How much gym time is right for a guy?

Her answer: I'd rather he be interesting than be a marathoner
I don't ever want to hear you talk about the gym

Other questions from Dude 101 What's your version of fun outdoor activities?

Her answer: An invigorating hike
Being into nature is a bonus

Other questions from Dating When it comes to tattoos, what's unacceptable subject matter?

Her answer: Tattoos are sexy; just make sure they're good
I don't want to see any boobs or names, though

Other questions from Style What do you think of guys who cook?

Her answer: He just better be good at it
I love it but not enough to rhyme

Other questions from Dating When out to dinner, what looks good on a guy's plate?

Her answer: Tofu and veggies ... the healthier the better
Vegetarians are sexy

Other questions from Dating During the courtship phase I like a guy who:

Her answer: Plays it cool, but is clear about his interest
Quit playing games with my heart

Other questions from Dating In matters of heart a guy should be:

Her answer: Cool-headed
Relax, guy

Other questions from Dating When the two of you are together his eyes should be:

Her answer: Taking in the beauty of the world, me included.
Not so much...including other beautiful ladies

Other questions from Dating Are flowers still appreciated?

Her answer: Yes.
But carnations look like old tissues.

Other questions from Dating How long before jewelry is a required gift?

Her answer: Never.
Gifts shouldn't be required.

Other questions from Dating Are you still thinking about your ex on this Valentine's Day?

Her answer: Yes.
I think about all the different Valentines I've had - doesn't mean I miss 'em.

Other questions from Dating Is it sleazy to pick up lonely single ladies on Valentine's Day?

Her answer: Yup.
But sleazy isn't always bad.

Other questions from Dating My lady claims she doesn't care about Valentine's Day. Is this a trap?

Her answer: No.
If it is a trap, you need a new lady.

Other questions from Dating Regarding the gift of lingerie...

Her answer: Cool.
Though it should be nice lingerie, not a slutty school girl outfit.

Other questions from Dating We've been dating for a week, and I surprise you with a weekend get-away in the country. Is that...

Her answer: Creepy.
Unless I met you on a week long get-away.

Other questions from Dating Is Valentine's Day a good day for a first date?

Her answer: No.
Awkward city, population: us.

Other questions from Dating What is your ideal New Year's Eve night?

Her answer: Big party
New years is almost always a disappointment but I try to find an amazing party every year anyway.

Other questions from Nightlife For presents, is it the thought or the value that matters?

Her answer: The thought.
If you've ever looked through the pages of skymall magazine, you know that price doesn't mean taste.

Other questions from Mr. Manners If you don't have a date for New Year's Eve, would you kiss a stranger?

Her answer: Why not?
Depends on the stranger.

Other questions from Mr. Manners Should we go to each others' office's holiday party?

Her answer: Of course
You should put a face to the names I complain about.

Other questions from Nightlife For the New Year's Eve party, should I overdress or underdress?

Her answer: Overdress
Positive attention!

Other questions from Style When do in-law gifts become a standard?

Her answer: Once you're married
If you have a good relationship with them and see something appropriate, it could be ok early on.

Other questions from Mr. Manners If we go to your parents' house, should we try to sleep in the same bed or in separate ones?

Her answer: Same
My parents don't care.

Other questions from Mr. Manners I'm shopping for a present, but I don't know your size. Better to go with:

Her answer: little too big?
There's really no better of two evils here.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Presenting mistle-toe under which to kiss:

Her answer: Cute
Cute because it's old school.

Other questions from Nightlife Eggnog or rum punch?

Her answer: Eggnog
Eggnog, like fruitcake, is gross but necessary.

Other questions from Nightlife Do I have to clean my feet in the shower, or do they clean themselves by the water that runs down?

Her answer: Your feet wash themselves.
It's nice to get into bed with clean feet at the end of the day, though.

Other questions from Dude 101 What's your take on fidgeting?

Her answer: Intensely annoying
Especially that thing where you're shaking the table by fidgeting your knee.

Other questions from Dude 101 What do you think when you see two men engaged in debate?

Her answer: “Ooh, sexy.”
I like passionate opinions.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Does she want pleasantry, or honesty?

Her answer: Can you not be pleasant and honest?
There is a way of putting things honestly that is constructive.

Other questions from Mr. Manners How important is it that a guy knows how to make a fancy cocktail?

Her answer: Not at all
But I'd be impressed if you did.

Other questions from Nightlife Who controls the music in the car?

Her answer: Driver
Though it's nice to consider the passengers.

Other questions from Mr. Manners What's the best Scorsese movie?

Her answer: None of these
What about Raging Bull? Taxi Driver?

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Sharing of toothbrushes: okay or not okay?

Her answer: Use your finger
I'll buy you one if we're going to make a habit of sleepovers.

Other questions from Mr. Manners She starts moving toward the dance floor, what do you do?

Her answer: Show her your moves
Don't show me up, though.

Other questions from Dude 101 Is it possible for me to ask out a bartender, barista, or waitress?

Her answer: If there's chemistry, why not?
Don't leave a cheesy note on a napkin.

Other questions from Nightlife I just lost my job. How long do I have until my girlfriend starts to get antsy?

Her answer: Depends how hard you're trying to find a job
I hope you're not sitting around in boxer-briefs playing warcraft instead of pounding pavement.

Other questions from Style How do you feel about Iowa?

Her answer: Love it.
Legalizing gay marriage was cool.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Should I always ask you about your day?

Her answer: If I look like I need to talk.
But it's nice to check in, anyway.

Other questions from Mr. Manners How long can we talk about politics?

Her answer: 90+ minutes.
I love to talk about politics, if you don't watch Fox News.

Other questions from Mr. Manners We're leaving. What do I do with my almost-finished beverage?

Her answer: Finish it.
Then slam it down on the table like it's a contest.

Other questions from Nightlife If I'm a starving artist, do we have a chance?

Her answer: If you are TALENTED starving artist.
But if you're too good for a day job, I don't want to hear it.

Other questions from Success To what extent should our interests overlap?

Her answer: We should be teaching each other.
Make me a more rounded person!

Other questions from Worldy-Wise What's the proper cologne intensity for a guy?

Her answer: When I'm close to you.
It should be a pleasant surprise.

Other questions from Dude 101 Beatles or Stones?

Her answer: Beatles
All you need is love.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Is it okay if I point out people's grammar mistakes?

Her answer: Totally unacceptable
Written, ok, fine. In person? You sound like a jerk.

Other questions from Mr. Manners How often should I be talking to my mom on the phone?

Her answer: Once a week
I talk to mine at least that often.

Other questions from Dude 101 Can I eat garlic?

Her answer: The more garlic, the better.
It's delicious. Buy some mints.

Other questions from Success If your dad has a sweet business, can/should you have him hook me up?

Her answer: Maybe?
That just sounds like awkwardness in our future, but never say never.

Other questions from Success Does having many jobs on my resume look good or bad?

Her answer: What kind of jobs are we talking about?
Does your resume include tanning bed cleaner?

Other questions from Success Does having many jobs on my resume look good or bad?

Her answer: What kind of jobs are we talking about?
Does your resume include tanning bed cleaner?

Other questions from Success Do you want to hear me talk about my (awesome) job?

Her answer: Let me be the judge of your awesomeness
If you're really passionate, that's cool. But don't go on and on about it.

Other questions from Success Who should be wearing sexy underwear?

Her answer: Everybody.
Can't hurt. Even the Borat lime green thong brings some levity to the situation.

Other questions from Style Should I wear a blazer with my jeans?

Her answer: If you want to look like a loser.
Casual dad fashion.

Other questions from Style Do women notice when a man has a nice wallet?

Her answer: Nah, doesn't matter.
I'm always impressed by a money clip.

Other questions from Style When should a guy use gel in his hair?

Her answer: Never!
If you're going to use product, use some wax, not that wet gel that makes your hair crusty.

Other questions from Style When are athletic socks acceptable?

Her answer: Whenever
If you wear them with short shorts like you're playing basketball in the 70s.

Other questions from Style How should we celebrate our one-night-stand?

Her answer: A tender embrace
Awkward but tender.

Other questions from Dating If a girl waxes, a guy should trim. True or false?

Her answer: TRUE
You don't have to just like I don't have to, but it's just polite, really.

Other questions from Dating What's the acceptable level of ex-interaction?

Her answer: Just don't cheat.
I'm trying to be friends with my exes, but lord knows it ain't easy.

Other questions from Dating Who pays for contraception?

Her answer: Split
I'm a modern 90s woman.

Other questions from Dating How intensely do you Facebook stalk?

Her answer: I even check out all his friends
This information may change my opinion of you drastically.

Other questions from Dating Can I go to a strip club with my buddies?

Her answer: Only for a best friend’s bachelor party.
Not into the idea of you paying to be dry humped.

Other questions from Mr. Manners We're telling stories. How do you feel about stories including my ex?

Her answer: A story is a story is a story.
I think it depends on the story. Don't tell me one about you two skinny dipping in Puerto-Rico.

Other questions from Mr. Manners How much should I tip the waiter?

Her answer: Twenty percent
If you've worked in a restaurant, you know what to do.

Other questions from Nightlife Can I leave my phone out when we're out at dinner?

Her answer: No.
Only if you're using it to keep track of time. If you're not a doctor, don't answer your phone.

Other questions from Nightlife You're my boss, and you're hot. Where can we go from here?

Her answer: No can do. Pens OUT of company ink.
That kind of power imbalance is not sexy.

Other questions from Success When a girl tells you how many partners she's had, it's usually...

Her answer: Dead-on.
I've never felt the need to lie about this.

Other questions from Dude 101 What should be manscaped?

Her answer: Your hairy neck & back.
Your neck, your back...

Other questions from Dude 101 What type of body is best for a guy?

Her answer: Doesn't matter.
I like all sorts of body types.

Other questions from Dude 101 Does my collection of comic books count toward my knowledge of art and culture?

Her answer: Yes, it’s like understanding another universe.
Love and Rockets and V for Vendetta are my faves.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise How long should you date before asking her on a weekend away?

Her answer: Couple months
Taking a trip together is sort of make or break.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise What's the sexiest kind of facial hair on a guy?

Her answer: Stubble
Shave that goatee.

Other questions from Style What kind of underwear is best on a guy?

Her answer: Boxer briefs
They look good on square male hips.

Other questions from Style When does sexual history come up?

Her answer: Just before we’re…intimate
I don't want to know your number but I want to know if you've had syphilis. No judgement.

Other questions from Dating Do you Google search your date before meeting up with them?

Her answer: No
If I really like them, I'll look for them on Facebook.

Other questions from Mr. Manners Which way does toilet paper go?

Her answer: Over
But i don't actually care if you replace it when it's done.

Other questions from Dude 101 How frequently do you think guys look at porn?

Her answer: Daily
n/a

Other questions from Dude 101 Bros before hoes. Your thoughts?

Her answer: Hoes is an offensive word; don’t use it
That word is for girls only.

Other questions from Dude 101 What's the maximum number of days I can wear the same underwear?

Her answer: 2 days
Keep it to yourself.

Other questions from Dude 101 My buddy just broke up with his (awesome) girlfriend. When can I ask her out?

Her answer: Never. It’s guy code.
But if it's ~true love~ you can ask him if it's ok years later.

Other questions from Dude 101 My best buddy told me a secret. Should I tell my girlfriend?

Her answer: If you love your girl, tell her.
Though it depends on the secret.

Other questions from Dude 101 I'm at dinner with no cash and they don't take plastic. What now?

Her answer: Ask a friend to spot you for the bill, and buy him a drink later.
But if you are doing it because of ATM fees, you're an idiot.

Other questions from Dude 101 What's your take on public broadcasting?

Her answer: Indispensable
Who doesn't love this american life?

Other questions from Worldy-Wise How do you feel about Judd Apatow?

Her answer: Hilarious
There wasn't an option for ambivalent but superbad was hilarious.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise What's the most important thing a guy should be reading?

Her answer: Books
Magazines are kindling.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise I get all my news from Jon Stewart. Is that OK?

Her answer: Yep
You can read, though, right?

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Going to open-mic night makes me...

Her answer: The same
embarrassing yourself on the mic is another story.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Travel to a foreign country is...

Her answer: An essential part of growing up
I'm moving to Colombia at the end of the week, so...

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Does listing the places I've been make me seem pretentious?

Her answer: No
We can compare notes.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise What should be in my fridge?

Her answer: Water is enough
Though I might fear an eating disorder.

Other questions from Mr. Manners When it comes to PDA, which base is acceptable in public?

Her answer: 1st
PDA should be G rated.

Other questions from Mr. Manners How important is it for a guy to notice your new haircut?

Her answer: Somewhat
I am crazy about cutting my hair and almost always cry over it, so tell me it's amazing.

Other questions from Mr. Manners When is public flatulence OK?

Her answer: Only if you’ve got a legitimate problem
And you should see a doctor about that.

Other questions from Mr. Manners Do I open the doors, or does she?

Her answer: First come, first served.
It's always nice to open doors for people, no matter who they are.

Other questions from Mr. Manners My friends are getting married and I'm broke. What should I get them?

Her answer: Offer to take them out for dinner post-honeymoon.
Or make them something arty.

Other questions from Mr. Manners What's the best birthday present to give to a male friend?

Her answer: A night on the town.
Power tools if they are building a cabin in the woods. actually, a cabin in the woods is the best gi

Other questions from Mr. Manners What's the best hangover cure?

Her answer: Water and pain relievers
And brunch!

Other questions from Nightlife Two good drinks or four crummy drinks?

Her answer: 2 good
I prefer being tipsy to drunk.

Other questions from Nightlife Should I buy shots for the cute girls at the bar?

Her answer: No, that makes you a loser.
Buy shots for your friends.

Other questions from Nightlife I've spilled red wine on myself. What do I do?

Her answer: Club soda, stat!
If that doesn't work, just say you got in a fight defending someone's honor.

Other questions from Nightlife Liquor before beer, in the clear: true or false?

Her answer: Neither
It's all about hydrating!

Other questions from Nightlife Is checking my coat lame or just good sense?

Her answer: No, why have the extra baggage?
I hate bars without hooks for purses.

Other questions from Nightlife What looks best in a guy's hand?

Her answer: Liquor, straight up
On the rocks.

Other questions from Nightlife Do you care what a guy does for a living?

Her answer: Of course
Inasmuch as being ethical in your career choices is important to me.

Other questions from Success Does my title matter?

Her answer: No
Unless that title has to do with armed forces.

Other questions from Success What financial level should a guy be at compared to you?

Her answer: Don’t care
Don't be classist.

Other questions from Success Drinks with coworkers: important part of getting ahead?

Her answer: Yes, it’s a must.
Unfortunately.

Other questions from Success I'm negotiating for a raise. What's my first move?

Her answer: Research! Talk to recruiters, friends, and colleagues.
Be confident in that meeting.

Other questions from Success I hate networking events. What should I do?

Her answer: Bring friends to make things more comfortable.
I hate work disguised as a party, too.

Other questions from Success How should I ask for a first date?

Her answer: Phone
In person is nice too. Texting is terrible and Facebook is worse.

Other questions from Dating First date: would you rather a guy overdress or underdress?

Her answer: Don’t care
Casual but not sloppy, please.

Other questions from Style When is a mustache a fail?

Her answer: 60% of the time
Love a good handlebar.

Other questions from Style Two polos at once?

Her answer: Stupid
Hate polos. Put your collar down.

Other questions from Style Skinny jeans (for him): in or out?

Her answer: In
Unless they are so tight he has trouble sitting.

Other questions from Style Should socks match the blazer or the slacks (if they're different colors)?

Her answer: Who cares?
Put a little color into those socks.

Other questions from Style Pointy shoes: in or out?

Her answer: In
Unless they're leather.

Other questions from Style What's your take on guys having a sense of style?

Her answer: It’s an absolute must
Hopefully his style does not include ed hardy t-shirts.

Other questions from Style Could you date a guy if you didn't really like his mother?

Her answer: Yep!
If she didn't like me, we'd have problems.

Other questions from Dating Asking out a stranger you see every day: weird or romantic?

Her answer: Romantic
Unless you see them everyday due to stalking.

Other questions from Worldy-Wise Do you believe in love at first sight?

Her answer: No
I believe in lust at first sight

Other questions from Dating I prefer guys that are...

Her answer: Funny
But funny in a smart way.

Other questions from Dude 101 I like guys that are...

Her answer: Taller than me
I'm not against dating someone shorter.

Other questions from Dating Bald spots are...

Her answer: Not a problem
Jean-Luc Picard is not a problem either.

Other questions from Dating Bald spots are...

Her answer: Not a problem
Jean-Luc Picard is not a problem either.

Other questions from Dating How many dates before I can invite a girl up to my place?

Her answer: Four
Taking it slow is underrated.

Other questions from Style